6 April 2020 – You Create Your Own Sunshine

Weekly YES Quote!

“Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in our own sunshine.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Weekly Reflection

I don’t often like to start reflections with a question, but this week I feel compelled to: what in your life makes the sun shine?

Not literal sunshine… I understand enough of the science behind that… but what in your life makes you beam so brightly that you can barely contain your smile?

Is it your family, your job, your extracurricular activities, your studies, your passions, your conversations with others… what is it?

We all have that turn-on switch – that switch that naturally clicks on whenever we’re in our zone… when we’re feeling ourselves.

And damnit doesn’t it feel good to be in our zone! That isn’t a question even though it’s posed as one because I know you feel the same: when you’re doing what you’re good at… what you feel you were born to do… what you excel at… what brings meaning to your life… THAT feeling is your sunshine.

Time passes and you don’t even notice because you’re so enraptured by the happiness that’s enveloped you.

Then all of a sudden or maybe after a moment of doubt you lose it, and you cast a shadow.

You lose the fun, the desire, the steadfast “I’m such a boss” feeling that you were manifesting… and why is that?

We’ve been programmed to think the grass is always greener on the other side – and that’s absolute hogwash. Just when everything seems perfect you start to doubt it and wonder if it really is everything you wanted or if it could be better because of some arbitrary X, Y, and/or Z.

And I’m here to tell you that the grass is greenest when you’re happiest – when you’re casting your brightest sunshine.

There is no other measure on the quality of life than when you’re at your happiest. You have all the power in the world to be at your best, and you have all the power in the world to be at your worst. No one else has this power other than you.

We can get in our own way, or we can step into the sunshine and cast that bright, shining light all around us to show just how glorious and magnificent we are.

I used to struggle with who I was and why I was the way I was. I tend to be loud, out there, possibly uncouth, and varied from the norm. Basically, I’m generally an eclectic taste for most.

At one point or another I didn’t fully love me, and I wished to be anyone other than me – I was casting a horrific shadow when I finally stepped into the most glorious sunlight that was my life: my uniquely, fulfilling life.

I decided that I deserved the best because I am the best – exactly as I am.

And what did that feeling get me – everything. And what did the prior feelings get me… well, they made me paranoid in thinking I wasn’t skinny enough, I wasn’t athletic enough, I wasn’t smart enough… all of these shadows of “not enoughs.”

These shadows you cast when you’re in your brightest light are negative, detrimental to your growth, and they only do harm without bringing any good.

When you look at your “not enough” list I want you to really analyze it – why is it that you feel you aren’t enough? Why are you casting a massive shadow when the sun is shining so brightly on you?

Did someone say something to you? If someone did, they aren’t you and they don’t have a say about you.

Did something happen to you? Life experiences can make us stronger and better and enrich the beauty within if we let it, or we can choose to wallow in a woe is me pattern.

Did you decide one day that you just simply weren’t enough without any concrete evidence to support your justification? Again, you’re the only person that can cast a shadow on your life. You have all the power in the world to reverse this mentality if you choose to do so.

I could ask you “did X” all day long to beat my point into the ground.

All I want you to know is, through this reflection, when your sun shines the brightest there is always a shadow cast and only you can prevent that shadow from enveloping the bright light you’ve created by simply being you, embracing you, and striving to be a better you.

Weekly Challenge

I challenge you to always strive for better… for you always deserve the best and a stagnant persona doesn’t grow with you to make you into that better you.

I challenge you this week to feel as your best self because you deserve it and are truly your best self even if you don’t quite believe it.

I challenge you to cast that shadow aside and focus solely on the light that’s emanating from you.

I also challenge you to appreciate what you have and who you are right now. You’re amazing and the grass is greenest under your feet!

Better yet, I challenge you to challenge yourself. You are your biggest cheerleader, you are your biggest go-getter, and you are your strongest, most resilient advocate.

You don’t cast a shadow when you step in front of the sunshine – you glow and everything else around you glows.

Think about a time you were truly on top like nothing could touch you or bring you down. How did you feel in this moment?

Hold that feeling – that feeling of power and awesomeness.

For, as long as you hold that feeling, you’re invincible.

Truly – don’t scoff or roll your eyes – when you believe in yourself there is nothing that can stand in your way.

For only when you step into the sunshine can you cast a shadow of doubt. No one else can cast that shadow for you.

It may be uncomfortable or foreign to you to relish in the sunshine glowing on your skin for pursuing and bettering yourself… that’s a positive feeling. You should always feel good for simply being you. Let the warmth of the sun shine on you. Feel the greatness that is you.

So this week and always, I want you to reflect and hold onto why you’re the fabulous person you are – write down the reasons that you’re awesome so that you can reflect on them every single morning when you wake up, afternoon when you’re taking a much deserved break, and evening before you go to bed so that you can set your intention for the following day. Let it drive you forward.

I feel your awesomeness, and I may not have been graced by your presence yet.

I see your awesomeness, and I may not have laid eyes upon you yet.

I know your awesomeness because you’re here – you’re taking this moment for yourself to read this post to get your blood flowing for the week and many weeks to follow – and through this action you’ve already begun to shine.

Peace out shadow – you have lots of shining to do.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

30 March 2020 – Let’s Kick Some Ass!

Weekly YES Quote!

“In order to kick ass you must first lift up your foot.”

Jen Sincero, You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life

Weekly Reflection

I’ve been battling with some weird mood swings since California put the shelter-in-place order into effect.

I’m not saying I’m surprised… we’ve all had to make sacrifices in order to prevent the rapid spreading of COVID-19… but man oh man do I crave normalcy again as I’m sure you do as well.

  • My work routine has become more remote (actually loving that since I’m able to be more productive, though I miss my amazing coworkers who swing by my desk on the regular to say hi and inquire about my day and inform me about theirs).
  • My exercise routine has taken a serious shift (I’m starting to run around my neighborhood more now that my favorite studio has temporarily closed – missing my lovely fitness friends and gnarly workouts… like, hardcore).
  • My human interaction has gone 95%+ virtual and the other portion of the time it’s paranoid 6 feet of social distancing, which… let’s be honest… we all need that touch to complete the human interaction even if it’s a high five.
  • My dining out game is the lowest it’s ever been (I have a happy wallet, but I’m totally missing my Sunday solo dinner dates at my regular San Diego pho spot – phonatic phosho right here).

The above, just to be clear, aren’t heavy sacrifices that I’ve had to make, but they are key things in my life that bring me joy which I’ve had to give up or alter – and that sucks.

Maybe your sacrifices are heavier, lighter, or similar – it doesn’t matter. Your lifestyle in some way has been altered, and that’s frustrating if not uncomfortable and extremely difficult.

As humans we crave routine even if our routine is seemingly routine-less. And once that routine has been interrupted with an inability to forecast when we can gain it back, we begin to feel a tad helpless.

That was the conclusion I came to this morning: I’m tired of feeling helpless

There is always something we can do to turn this frown upside down, look at the glass half full, see the light at the end of the tunnel…

This quarantine, this shelter-in-place, this slow-down of life gives us each the opportunity to reflect inward to assess our lives, see where we’re at, measure ourselves against our goals… It gives us the opportunity to take action to grow ourselves in a way that maybe we’ve been putting on the back-burner because we just didn’t have enough time. 

It gives us the opportunity to kick some ass!

You heard me – left, right, left foot up in the air and kicking! Or maybe you prefer right, left, right – as long as you’re ready to lift those feet to make moves baby!

So what is it you’ve been needing or wanting? What is that special it which will help you to grow as a person?

Grip it tight because it’s yours. You are not helpless when it comes to achieving it, and you are fully capable and in control of going for it no matter what is going on around you.

Weekly Challenge

I want you to repeat after me, “I am not helpless. I am in control of my life. I will use this opportunity to reflect inward and pursue what I need in order to grow as a person.”

After saying these words aloud you might be thinking to yourself, “I can’t do that… I’m not physically able to go to my place of work.” Or “I can’t do that… I don’t have the first clue how to even get started with something like this.” Or even “I can’t do that… I don’t even know what that is!”

Well I’m here to deliver you the same message Jen Sincero delivered to me when I was reading her motivational and amazing book, You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life:

“In order to kick ass you must first lift up your foot.”

That’s right yes ma’ams and sirs, you can achieve that it!

Sure… you can’t physically go into the office or actual establishment that you’ve grown accustomed to frequenting to and from, but you can make a plan and set an intention.

Maybe you don’t know how to get started and that’s okay too! Take some time today or during the week to do some research or phone someone who you’ve seen succeed with something similar so you can pick their brain about it. For remember, if you knew all along how to get there you’d likely already be there.

And no worries if your mind is blank, and you’re at a loss for what the heck it is.

Put your phone, laptop, tablet away; turn off the TV, radio, Spotify; and go to a space solely your own without any distractions. Sit or lie down comfortably and close your eyes. Take a deep breath in, then let it out. Focus on your breathing and let everything else go.

Once your mind is reset give another try at defining what that it is. When you’re ready, it will come to you.

You are the only person who can hold you back from growing into the person you crave to be or gaining fulfillment by satisfying a need.

We are never helpless or without control, but we must first take the step required to get us moving in the direction we need to go.

Now go forth and kick some serious ass this week! 

Do not let yourself be limited by your surroundings or hesitate to reach or step in a direction you’ve never gone before.

And if it feels like no one else is with you on this journey, know that I am – I’ll be right beside you helping you to kick ass because I know you’re worth it and you deserve it.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention and kick start your week.

As a disclaimer, I will receive a kickback from the affiliate links if you choose to make a purchase.

23 March 2020 – Find Your Purpose: Find Your Happiness

Weekly YES Quote

“The purpose of life is to be happy.”

Dalai Lama

Weekly Reflection

Happiness should never be measured by the amount of money in ones bank account, the quality of clothing on ones back, or the number of stamps in ones passport book.

Though it can be true that having more money provides you with the ability to afford to do activities that bring you joy, American-made clothing doesn’t promote sweatshops and provides those talented persons making the clothing with a fair wage and benefits which may make you feel more at peace with your spending, and experiencing cultures outside of your own can make you a more well-rounded and aware person when making choices that can affect others.

Recently a friend asked me what my purpose in life was.

It’s been a long time since someone with genuine ears at the ready asked me a deep and meaningful question that forced me to look inward and really analyze myself.

I paused to give this solid consideration before answering him that I believe I was meant to lead people.

I believe that I am meant to help others get to where they need to be by leading, coaching, and inspiring them. Helping someone to achieve their goals brings me immense happiness, and therefore, I believe leading is my purpose.

I am so grateful that he asked me that question.

That question inspired me the to share with you the importance of striving for what makes you happy.

Weekly Challenge

I challenge you to ask yourself the simple question:

“How am I today?”

Seriously! Don’t you roll your eyes at me.

How… are you… today?

I want you to stop and give this simple question some real thought. I want you to give this simple question your undivided attention.

I want you to put everything else you’re doing down, away, or out of sight, close your eyes, take a deep breath in, take a deep breath out, and really answer this question as yourself to yourself.

Well?

If you can’t answer it right away try clearing your mind again. Bring focus to yourself, your feelings, your emotions…

Be confident in your answer. Don’t even think about bullshitting yourself.

Now that you’ve centered yourself, ask yourself: what is my purpose?

Again, if the answer doesn’t immediately come to mind, take a deep breath in, let the breath out, and then ask yourself:

  • what drives me forward?
  • what gets up me up in the morning?
  • when I reflect on the great things that happened during the day, what sticks out the most?
  • and ultimately, what makes me happy?

Now, write it down, and put your purpose in a place where you’ll be able to easily access and see it.

I challenge you to reflect on your purpose every morning you wake up this week, and may it drive everything you do each day towards achieving your well-deserved happiness.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention and kick start your week.

As a disclaimer, I will receive a kickback from the affiliate links if you choose to make a purchase.

16 March 2020 – Appreciate What You Have Today

Weekly YES Quote!

“Why didn’t I learn to treat everything like it was the last time? My greatest regret was how much I believed in the future.”
Jonathan Safran Foer, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close

Weekly Reflection

I’m just going to start by calling out the elephant in the room: COVID-19.

The more news I watch on television, scroll through on Twitter, and hear about from coworkers, friends, and family members, the more I realize how important and quickly things can change.

How priorities we once had have become depriorities: going into the office, going on a coffee date with a friend, hitting the gym on your lunch break… all these social activities or activities that take place in public places are being dismissed left and right as the priority of social interaction has been traded out for isolation and quarantine.

How the big meeting you’ve been stressing and busting your ass preparing for may be pushed weeks out. How much hair did you lose in the process that now seems like a big ol’ waste of time?

How professional sporting seasons and concert hall performances are getting cancelled. I mean how many of you already made your March Madness brackets and got all stoked to talk smack and win some money only to find out that the event won’t be happening?

Hell, we can’t even go to the supermarket to purchase toilet paper because everyone and their mother is buying it all up! Like seriously people!?

We need to focus on what we have now and be present in our daily lives.

It doesn’t do us any good to only look ahead to the future when everything can change in an instant.

This week’s quote is from a book (Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close) about a 9-year-old boy, Oskar Schell, whose father dies suddenly in the tragic collapse of the World Trade Center on 11 September.

How often do you catch yourself taking things for granted like your parents, your animals, your siblings, your partner, your coworkers, your car, your job, your housing location, your housing situation, your meal preferences, your dedication to your country, your philanthropic contributions to society…

Maybe not all of these are applicable to you, which is more than okay, but how often do you stop to appreciate the person or activity in the moment when it’s actually happening?

Weekly Challenge

I won’t give you a cliche wash your hands for 20 seconds minimum challenge – though please do to prevent the spread of germs. And, oh yeah, cover your mouth when you cough, thanks;)

Instead I challenge you to reconnect with someone you’ve lost touch with.

I want you to really dig deep to consider who that someone is.

I want you to listen to your gut.

And when that first name pops into your head I don’t want you to erase it Etch A Sketch style or try to come up with someone else.

Write that someone’s name down, write down the reason they popped into your mind, open your phone for what its intended purpose was, and dial the number pertaining to that person.

There’s a reason that someone came to mind – DO NOT IGNORE that reason.

It likely isn’t going to be easy or might even be a bit uncomfortable, but if it was going to be easy and comfortable then that someone likely wouldn’t have come to mind.

Maybe that someone isn’t even someone else. Maybe that someone is you.

Whoever that someone is, show them the attention they deserve and listen to them when you talk to them. Be honest with that someone and allow yourself to reconnect.

You never know… you or they may not be here tomorrow.

Reminder to Just Say Yes and Follow Me!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more exciting Yescapades!

As a disclaimer, I was not paid by any of the above linked sites. This review is solely mine without any monetary compensation. I will however receive a kickback from the affiliate links if you choose to make a purchase.

9 March 2020 – Time to Get Uncomfortable

Weekly YES Quote

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

Elizabeth Appel

Weekly Reflection

Have you ever thought to yourself, wow it would be so awesome if or if only X would happen it would make everything so much easier?

Like, fill in the blank with that if  thought you’ve got floating around in your head right now!

Now think about what you may need to do for yourself to achieve that if

Is it outside of your knowledge base, thought up current reaches, or comfort zone? Well, I have a news flash for you: it’s time to get uncomfortable!

You deserve the best and NO ONE… I mean seriously, no one… is simply going to deliver it to you on a golden platter.

Take myself for example – I’m tired of living paycheck to paycheck while trying to reduce my debt, save for property to have as my own in a location I want, and have enough PTO and money to comfortably travel to see the world and the people I care about most.

Being a single woman in Southern California doesn’t exactly offer me the opportunity to do all of the above – California is only becoming more expensive

When I think about the how to make my if I had enough money statement a reality I become extremely nauseated because until recently I had no idea how to change my financial situation and that scared the hell out of me.

But so what!

I have the power to do something about it and make that if a reality and so do you!

Or, you and I can just get mundanely comfortable where we’re at with no room to blossom.

In true Aly Yes Ma’am fashion (with all due respect of course)… fuck that.

Weekly Challenge

I challenge you to write down your list of ifs.

Brainstorm what would…

  • make your life better
  • relieve stress and take some serious weight off your shoulders
  • help fulfill a void you’ve been feeling lately
  • bring a smile to your face and fill your body with giddy joy
  • help improve the life of someone dear to you who may be going through a rough time

Then I want you to jot down how you’re going to make moves to change these if situations.

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself – that won’t help the process.

Instead, if you’re having trouble, take the process slowly.

Maybe…

  • taking 15 minutes away from your phone to disconnect from the social media world will make your life better by helping you to refocus your efforts on yourself instead of what you see everyone else doing.
  • eliminating an unnecessary task like having to grocery shop at 5 different stores in order to make 1 meal will relieve some stress that’s been building in your life lately.
  • volunteering for that organization you’ve been meaning to reach out to or give your time to to help a cause dear to your heart will help fill a void you’ve let sit and possibly grow.
  • going for a hike, enjoying a solo coffee date, going to the movies to catch that new flick, or cracking open that new book you haven’t had time to read will put a fatty grin on your face.
  • picking up the phone to call that someone you’ve been thinking about will make their day.

Whatever it is – DO IT! Don’t hesitate to get uncomfortable in order to improve your life!

For me, I joined the Arbonne business to provide me with the flexibility of earning additional income so that I don’t have to give up and settle. Arbonne is the perfect avenue for my busy life schedule to provide me with the additional income I crave to kick my ifs to the curb.

There’s a solution for each of our if scenarios.

We just have to be determined enough to figure out what the avenue is, and when shit gets real uncomfortable… we have to step up to the plate and swing for the fence!

Never let the uncomfortable keep you from a better, more rewarding life – you owe it to yourself.

Reminder to Just Say Yes and Follow Me!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more exciting Yescapades!

As a disclaimer, I was not paid by any of the above linked sites. This review is solely mine without any monetary compensation. I will however receive a kickback from the affiliate links if you choose to make a purchase.

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