11 May 2020 – Unexpected Happenings

Weekly YES Quote!

“Let this unexpected happening point to your strength not your weakness. Maybe you’ve been entrusted with this. Not cured with it.

Lysa Terkeurst, from her book The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands

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Weekly Reflection

The last couple of weeks I’ve shared a lot of my experiences and feelings with you in order to challenge you to take on the week and all weeks to come.

Not that there’s anything wrong with sharing my experiences… rest assured many weeks to come will stem from my experiences and feelings. But this week I really want to focus on you.

How are you

Please, take a moment to pause and really ask yourself the question: “How am I?”

You’ve been through a lot over the course of this last month or so, and you’re finally going to start gaining back privileges – you’re going to start gaining back your life.

It doesn’t matter where you live – your location only changes the number and extent of the privileges you’re receiving back. It only matters how you feel.

We’ve lost loved ones, we’ve lost routines, we’ve lost income, we’ve lost relationships that we weren’t able to cultivate… you may have lost even more than that, and I send my heart out to you if that’s the case.

Regardless of the weight of your losses, I encourage you to cheer up and push ahead!

Think about:

  • who you’ve been wanting to give a big bear hug to,
  • what activities you’re going to partake in that you’ve since been unable to,
  • when you’re going to congratulate yourself for mentally getting through this,
  • where you’re going to go for your first meal out of the house,
  • why you’re fortunate to be here, and
  • how you’re going to take the next steps towards your new norm.

I’m not saying to forget the past. That would be irresponsible for I’m a firm believer that you cannot know where you’re going unless you know where you’ve been.

I am saying to look ahead – you have so much more life ahead of you!

This was simply a massive speed bump which reminded us that we’re not invincible just as your car wouldn’t be when hauling over that speed bump at greater than 25 MPH.

It has reminded us that all of our needy, immediate gratification we’ve developed isn’t the way to live a full life.

Before quarantine did you ever take the time to,

  • think before entering someone else’s personal space,
  • wash your hands to aid in not spreading germs everywhere,
  • pick up the phone to call someone who matters to you just to tell them you were thinking about them,
  • step outside onto your home simply to appreciate the warmth of the sun on your skin,
  • request to have the privilege to work from the comfort of your home so you could have at least one super productive day without coworkers interrupting you at your office desk,
  • try out a new food or drink recipe, or
  • emotionally check in with yourself to ensure your organs weren’t being replaced with metal parts?

You didn’t ask for this quarantine or some of the negative energy it’s brought into your life.

But what you can do is embrace the good it’s brought to your life, and harness that good energy for your future.

Weekly Challenge

Again, check in with yourself by asking yourself, “How am I?”

What answers did you derive from the reflection questions above?

Did you write them down?

Well, if you haven’t already, write the answers to the reflection questions down.

Please, don’t roll your eyes or think whatever lady.

Write the answers in your journal, on a note pad, in a Word document on your computer, or even on a paper towel or square of toilet paper (if you have some to spare – giggle) in bold Sharpie.

The power of transferring thoughts and emotions from within to life via ink on paper is so empowering. You can see it, feel it, and reflect back to it.

You’re so important!

Don’t let the negative energy win out or forget all the obstacles you’ve overcome through this growing process as you gain back privileges and start paving your new path.

You’ve had a chance to reset. 

You’ve had a chance to reconnect with your life.

You’ve had a chance to pursue new things that otherwise you’d never have taken the time to look twice at.

Use this as a stepping stone towards a better, happier, and healthier you.

Hug yourself when you feel the negativity trying to push it’s way in. Embrace yourself like you’ve never embraced yourself before. Then, when you let go, remember how the pressure felt and let it compel you forward.

As this week’s quote by Lysa Terkeurst’s in her book, The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands, says,

“Let this unexpected happening point to your strength not your weakness. Maybe you’ve been entrusted with this. Not cured with it.

Don’t abandon all that this quarantine has brought you, or disregard who it has made you into.

For some of it, maybe with or without knowing, was necessary to fill out your life so you could live the life you deserve.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

The link to Lysa Terkeurst’s book, The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands, is an affiliate link. If you purchase the book following my link I will receive a small kickback, and you will receive a wonderful edition to your collection! This book is among my favorites – I read it whenever I need a boost on saying yes even when my mood tells me otherwise. It empowers me to live my yes life as I hope you will do for you.

I’d love it if you shared some of your reflections with me and our other readers by commenting below! 

4 May 2020 – Hit the Pause Button

Weekly YES Quote!

“The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.

Leo Tolstoy, Author of many famous works including War and Peace

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Weekly Reflection

This past week was one of the more challenging weeks to keep my calm and patience.

I finished my Monday off strong and was headed into Tuesday with a can do / invincible attitude!

I mean seriously, here’s how my Monday went and it was awesome:

I woke up feeling fabulous, strutted my amazing self over to the Nespresso machine to fill my cup of liquid morning gold, cleansed my face, let my natural curls frame my face with a simple oil application for nourishment, dawned a clean sweater, and perched myself atop my exercise ball chair in front of my computer setup without pants.

If you know me, I’m simply… anti-pants – I know others of you are thinking the same thing.

I logged off my computer at 17:00 sharp and setup for an intense 55-minute signature heated barre workout through Belle + Barre (thanks Jeannine!) in the living room followed by a 30-minute flexibility yoga class through the Down Dog Yoga app.

Monday boxes checked! Successful work day and two awesome workouts! I was on top of the world when I crawled into bed Monday night.

Now, onto Tuesday!

Like, how could this week not continue to be killer in a good way?! Well, let me tell ya…

A little backstory: my office is essential due to the contracts we hold, so I am remote MWF and in the office TR. We take all the precautionary measures: masks, social distancing, and the works.

As I tried to get ready to go into the office, I found myself unable to leave my apartment –  I was getting bombarded with I need this, help me on this, and hey are you available because omg this… There wasn’t an appropriate time to say, “Sorry team. Give me an hour to get myself out the door so that I can handle these issues.”

I finally found a window to leave for the office at least 3-4 hours into the work day (at this point I almost decided to not even bother, but I’m a firm believer in showing up if people expect you to physically show up so I did).

I setup my laptop, grabbed my note pad, plugged my phone in, and went to check the time when I noticed I’d forgotten to put my watch on before leaving my residence *huge sigh.

I never forget to wear my watch… ever.

Soon as I noticed my watch wasn’t on my wrist I paused.

I stopped everything I was doing, took a deep breath in, held it for a few seconds, and then slowly let the breath out.

In that moment I knew I was running too hot… I wasn’t giving myself the time to check in with how I was feeling.

I brought my focus and attention back to myself.

Here I was sweating nervously to ensure others needs were met, and I’d neglected the one person who matters most: me.

I didn’t even take the time to ask myself, do you have everything you need before going into the office

It should’ve been a no-brainer to take 10 seconds before exiting and locking the door to check-in with myself to see if I was ready to go. But instead, in a panic to suit other people’s needs, I’d barreled out the door and was on my way to the office without even a second thought about my own needs.

That isn’t okay with me, and it shouldn’t be okay with you either.

You’re the number one person you need to take care of no matter if the circumstance is basic or life-threatening.

When you’re on an airplane and the flight attendant is taking you through the safety procedures, who do they tell you to apply the oxygen mask to first if that situation should arise? YOU!

I lost that this past week and ran rampant for hours before a simple I forgot my watch moment snapped me back.

It shouldn’t have taken a missing wristwatch to remind me to check in with myself, and nor should the equivalent happen for you to check in with yourself.

Weekly Challenge

We’re faced with obstacles every single day that take us away from our core.

Some obstacles are basic what should I eat today, and some obstacles are intense OMG! I need to do this, but first… but if I don’t do… the other, then… I… cue major panic.

Our time is precious. 

We shouldn’t spend it freaking out or spinning our wheels – once the motion stops you don’t feel any better. If anything you cycle back and think what the heck did I just endure?

I’m here this week to tell you to hit the pause button.

Just like this week’s yes quote by Leo Tolstoy says,

“The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.

Take a deep breath in, slowly release that breath, and recenter yourself. 

Bring the attention inward instead of focusing on everything outward going on around you.

You can take on any challenge you’re faced with if you’re centered with your hypothetical feet planted firmly beneath you.

Do this for you right now… even if your day is going smoothly and there aren’t any visible road blocks coming up in the near future: hit the pause button. 

Take a moment, even 5 seconds, to check in with yourself before proceeding to the next task.

Keep this theme throughout the week to give your mind the clarity it needs in order to ensure you’re operating at your absolute best.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

The link to Leo Tolstoy’s book, War and Peace, is an affiliate link. If you purchase the book following my link I will receive a small kickback, and you will receive a wonderful edition to your collection! This book is among my favorites. It’s a lengthy read, but well worth the literary journey! I highly suggest checking out this book as well as some of his other works like Anna KareninaHadji Murad  and The Death of Ivan Ilyich (all affiliate links).

I’d love it if you commented some of your favorite businesses or books that provide your mind & body with the nourishment it deserves! 

27 April 2020 – Face Your Emotions

Weekly YES Quote!

“We are so unused to emotion that we mistake any depth of feeling for sadness, any sense of the unknown for fear, and any sense of peace for boredom.

Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have

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Weekly Reflection

One month down and a questionable amount left to go before we can embark on the daily life which people have commonly begun to reference as the “new normal.”

There are times when I find myself complacent, angry, sad, happy, driven, determined, insecure, uncertain, worrisome… the full spectrum of emotion.

Like a roller coast ride: up and down and up and down… oh [bleep] here comes a loopty-loop… woosh, I made it… oh thank goodness there’s the platform! Now please miss unlock this restraint so I can get up out of this seat and be on my own two feet again, thanks.

There are days when I’m confidently looking at the glass half full.

My housemate and I have turned our living room into a multi-functional space since we can’t get our sweat on at our favorite establishments.

He purchased floor mats, an incline bench, resistance bands, and brought his dumbbells up from storage. I purchased a new yoga mat, revamped my yoga practice 3-4 times per week, started getting outside to walk and run more, and yesterday I rejoined my favorite gym by working out while partaking in their Instagram Live feed.

And when I’m not working out and don’t have a valid reason to venture outside, I take advantage of being in the comfort of my own home by blogging more and consistently posting the weekly yes quote for you beautiful readers!

I hold onto these moments and a list full of others to keep my head above water when it feels like I’m about to lose it. These are the moments that will help get us through this and many other hard-to-face obstacles down the road.

For…

We’ve all been forced to live with ourselves whether we like it or not. 

We’ve had to make sacrifices and changes in order to not less ourselves become overwhelmed or emotionally distraught. 

We’ve been thrown out of our comfort zones and that is just plain scary.

This is an emotional time for everyone.

And how we handle these emotions is completely within our control. We have the power to face these emotions and not let them get the better of us.

I could’ve been a huge grump-bot who decided to gain 15 pounds like my freshman year of college all over again, but instead I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself because I couldn’t go to the gym and make a way to get that endorphin high I need in order to be the positive minded person that I am.

I could’ve felt lonely, awkward, and disconnected because I was forced to stay inside, but instead I chose to dedicate my new time from home to blog and share my thoughts with you in writing.

I don’t know where we’re going to go as a society… I have some solid educational hunches, but nothing concrete.

But I do know that my emotions aren’t going to better me or send me down a nasty rabbit hole.

I control my emotions just as you have control over your own emotions.

Weekly Challenge

Take this week to really focus on your emotions.

Don’t brush your emotions to the side or decide to put them in your cute memory box to maybe come back to later. Those emotions will simply fester and come back even stronger, more powerful, and maybe even more confusing than they were when you chose not to give them the attention they deserved in the first place.

Just as Mark Nepo from his book The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have says,

“We are so unused to emotion that we mistake any depth of feeling for sadness, any sense of the unknown for fear, and any sense of peace for boredom.

Embrace the deep feelings you’re harboring no matter if these emotions are ugly, sad, or just downright depressing… setting them aside will exponentially ___

Embrace the unknown and the possibilities it will bring you. You have the power to do anything and everything in order to reach your goals. The only reason you even think there is an unknown is because you haven’t committed to what you will have and what’s required of you to get you there.

Lastly, and maybe most importantly, embrace the peace. I have mistaken the peace I’ve been blessed with for heavy boredom because I’ve always been a go go go person.

I would wake up, struggle to get ready to leave for the office (I am not a morning person), be productive and engaged in my daily work activities, find a good place to stop for the day, hustle over to the gym, pour the day out of me via sweating my [bleep] off, again hustle home to shower and make myself a home cooked meal, and then crawl into bed before midnight so that I could start it all over again at 6-too-freaking-early o’clock.

When I read that sentence it makes me nauseated!

5 days a week I would push to accomplish all of those tasks – 5 days in a row! That’s mental, but that’s what “not being bored” felt like to me.

If I had to relive that routine after the peace I’ve been able to harvest from this experience, I… I actually don’t know what I would do other than say no.

Look inward and decide that although you’ve been forced out of your old routine it’s truly for the best. Your old routine, even you have to admit, had to have flaws somewhere that you had wished you could’ve done something about… and now you have been given the opportunity to do so!

Take the challenge to face your emotions this week.

Don’t mistake depth of feeling for sadness.

Don’t mistake any sense of the unknown for fear.

And don’t mistake any sense of peace for boredom.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

The link to Mark Nepo’s book, The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have, is an affiliate link. If you purchase the book following my link I will receive a small kickback, and you will receive a wonderful edition to your collection! This book is among my favorites – I read it every morning when I wake before starting my day.

20 April 2020 – Don’t Cheat Yourself

Weekly YES Quote!

“The first and worst of all frauds is to cheat one’s self. All sin is easy after that.

Pearl Bailey (quote from Badass Affirmations: The Wit and Wisdom of Wild Women by Becca Anderson)

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Weekly Reflection

As a resident of Southern California, I’ve been abiding by the quarantine rules for a little over a month now.

It’s been difficult, boring, and simply dull… but I’ve managed thus far because I understand the importance of these rules.

All that being said, I haven’t been the best to myself during this quarantine process.

Prior to the quarantine my week day’s included going to the gym, refraining from drinking alcohol, and eating healthy foods throughout the day. Once quarantine struck the gym closed as did bars and restaurants and, frankly, the grocery store became my least favorite place to go.

I stopped my good habits I’d worked so hard to develop all because my routine was thrown a curve ball.

Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday… Blursday night…

Why not have an alcoholic beverage? Don’t airplane rules apply when in quarantine?

Why bother going out for a run or any other exercise? When was the last time I went for a run anyway?

Why grocery shop when I can order Uber Eats? Grocery stores are crawling with potentially infected people anyway, right?

These thoughts crept into my head and the resulting actions decided to camp out… for almost a month.

Once I get into my routine I’m set! But the routine door swings both ways: good and bad.

A little over a week ago I realized I was cheating myself out of happiness by letting myself destroy all of the good habits I’d created. 

I felt somewhat depressed from the consistent alcohol consumption, stale from the laziness of lounging around, and gross from the unhealthy delivery foods I’d been ingesting.

The number one person in the world I should be looking out for is myself, and I was letting myself down.

I’m proud to say I haven’t drank alcohol in a little over a week; I’ve been running, walking, and/or doing yoga every single day; and I’ve been eating clean and healthy foods.

Now that’s not to say that I’ve given up the bottle forever or won’t enjoy a good burger from time to time… in fact I’m planning to celebrate this 3 week getting back on track period with a Negroni (for those of you who don’t know Negronis are my kryptonite).

What I am saying is just because one massive boulder roadblocks you, it doesn’t mean you should park the car and give up on finding an alternate route so that you can continue on your well driven journey.

As Pearl Bailey is quoted as saying in the book Badass Affirmations: The Wit and Wisdom of Wild Women by Becca Anderson:

“The first and worst of all frauds is to cheat one’s self. All sin is easy after that.

So don’t cheat yourself.

Instead, find a way so that you can continue loving yourself. 

I needed to remind myself of that, and I’m here to remind you of it as well if you’ve let slip an important part of yourself because of this quarantine or for any other reason.

Weekly Challenge

Think of something you need that you’ve let slip because of the lifestyle changes you’ve had to make.

Please, take a moment and ask yourself:

  • Have you lost faith in something or someone? Is it important that you regain that faith, or is it a good thing you’ve let it go?
  • Have you fallen into a downward spiral of drinking, drugs, depression, or the like? Can you pinpoint the exact trigger that started this downward motion?
  • Have you lost touch with people who used to matter most to you? Is it because they were physically present and therefore convenient or do you really need those people and simply need to make an additional effort to get back in touch with them?
  • Have you lost the desire to get out of bed in the morning? What used to entice you to get out of the bed every morning before, and could you find a new reason to get up?
  • Have you simply felt bored most days without much purpose? What used to give you meaning for your life before, and what new beginnings could you focus on to inspire you now?

Let your mind wander.

Let your mind take you on an inward journey.

Don’t cheat yourself of searching within to see what’s missing, what you’ve lost, or what you wish you had.

Maybe you’re in a better place without some or all of these things! Acknowledge what you’ve let go of and be proud of yourself for leaving them behind. Give yourself a hug, and tell yourself how proud you are of yourself!

Maybe you’re in a less good place than you were before the quarantine. Acknowledge that as well, and more importantly, acknowledge why you’re in a less good place. Give yourself a hug and tell yourself that you can and will get through this. Seriously… wrap your arms around yourself and tell yourself you love yourself and you will get through this!

I wake up every morning smiling because I love myself. Even on mornings when I’m not proud of yesterday’s accomplishments I wake up loving myself because I know I can do better, and I decide I will do better.

Some days aren’t our best. Shoot… some days we just need a break.

But any day can be that day, and any day can be the day you turn it around!

So make this Monday that day, and carry this drive with you throughout the week and those weeks to come.

Even after this quarantine is over there will be other obstacles showing their hideous faces while trying to stop you in your path.

You have to be ready to take anything on at any time. You have to be ready to let go and pick up when it matters most.

Now go make that day today and make this week count.

Do it for your number one: Y-O-U.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

The link to Becca Anderson’s book, Badass Affirmations: The Wit and Wisdom of Wild Women, is an affiliate link. If you purchase the book following my link I will receive a small kickback, and you will receive a wonderful edition to your collection! This book is among my favorites – I own it and reference it regularly, especially when I need a pick me up from some of my fellow badass women.

13 April 2020 – Make Sacrifices for Your Own Betterment

Weekly YES Quote!

“people go

but how

they left

always stays”

Rupi Kaur, milk and honey

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Weekly Reflection

I don’t want to focus on death this week. Let that be clear upfront

This week’s reflection and challenge are actually quite the opposite.

Instead we’re going to focus on you – we’re going to focus on how you’re progressing or regressing as a person while dealing with this challenging time.

We’re all suffering… and to blunt, it sucks.

We’ve all had to make sacrifices that we either didn’t intend to make or want to make.

And the end isn’t in sight – even if the media says lock down should be over end of April… you know deep down that just because the lock down is over doesn’t mean what we’re experiencing is over.

Think about what sacrifices you’ve had to make even if they depress the hell out of you.

I want you to reflect inward and face these sacrifices head-on.

Maybe some of the sacrifices, though frustrating now, needed to be let go. Even ones you never intended to give up nor wanted to give up. Maybe this is for the better.

Those are the sacrifices I want to focus on this week: the sacrifices we didn’t take the time to realize weren’t good for our betterment anyway.

Rupi Kaur, in her book milk and honey, talks about letting go of a lover when she writes the quote:

“people go

but how

they left

always stays”

I want you to read this quote, and I want you to think of yourself. 

You‘ve had to let things go. You‘ve had to make sacrifices. And You are a different person because of it.

Don’t stress over what you have or can’t have because of the limitations and restrictions we’re currently facing. Instead be proud of your ability to accept these limitations and restrictions and become a better you.

Be proud that you’ve been able to sacrifice things / habits / mentalities that along you didn’t need.

You’re a strong person for making these sacrifices.

And when all of this is truly over… whenever that may be… you’ll have bettered yourself. Hold onto that – appreciate where you’ve come from, who you are now, and hold onto that dearly!

For things change and people change. We’re well aware of that because we’re forced to face it.

But you can take this in stride!

Weekly Challenge

Set everything else you’re doing aside and give yourself time to reflect on what you no longer have, can do, or should do.

Write down the sacrifices you’ve had to make and truly look them over. 

Take a deep breath in, then let it out.

Clear your mind of all the negative thoughts that just trickled in because you’re forcing yourself to look at what you may or may not want to acknowledge.

Again – take a deep breath in, then let it out.

Now look at the list again.

What on this list have you been forced to sacrifice that you’re actually appreciative that you’ve had to sacrifice? 

  • What part of yourself have you moved on from that betters you?
  • What activities have you let go of that never added value anyway?
  • What things have you freed yourself from that were cluttering up your life?

Don’t forget about these sacrifices – for knowing where you were will help you pave the way for where you’re going.

But don’t cling to them either – for they’ll only weigh you down and stop your forward progress.

For how you were was just as beautiful, but where you’re going will be all the more glamorous.

Also, don’t fear adding to this list throughout the week / month / year!

As each day passes we are blessed with the opportunity to reflect inward and really assess where we’re at, what we’ve been strong enough to let go of, and how much stronger we’ve become because of it.

Don’t hold yourself back from the awesomeness you have, are, and can attain.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

The link to Rupi Kaur’s book, milk and honey, is an affiliate link. If you purchase the book following my link I will receive a small kickback, and you will receive a wonderful edition to your collection! This book is among my favorites – I own it in hard copy and reference it regularly. I also recommend some of her other works like the sun and her flowers, which is also an affiliate link.
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