10 August 2020 – Take the Plunge

Weekly YES Quote!

“Just remember, once you’re over the hill you begin to pick up speed.”

Arthur Schopenhauer, Schopenhauer: The World as Will and Representation: Volume 2 (The Cambridge Edition of the Works of Schopenhauer)

(The World as Will and Representation: Volume 2 is an affiliate link)

Weekly Reflection

In last week’s post I reflected on two weeks of personal hardship (read the post here: 3 August 2020 – Manage the Stress).

And while I did manage the stress this past week, I still feel very emotional towards the changes that I’ve begun to embrace, and well… ultimately the changes are right around the corner whether or not I’m ready or willing to dive headfirst into whatever newness is waiting for me.

The above thought brings me to this week’s yes post: “take the plunge.”

For what else can I do?

I guess I could sit around and mope, feel sorry for myself, and cry until my tear ducts plugged and my eyes run out of fluid.

Or I could jump around jovially, tell myself everything is going to be absolutely spectacular, and do ten burpies in a row because why the heck not!

But truly… knowing me and who I am… I’ll take the plunge into this next chapter using a combination of the two while focusing on creating a balance that satisfies and soothes my soul.

For if I was only depressingly sad or only blissfully happy I wouldn’t truly be taking the plunge I want and need for myself.

We’re each looking for our way in this life.

And if we let these seemingly monumental occurrences blockade our paths and don’t permit ourselves room for growth and change, then we’re doing ourselves a disservice in this life.

How you take the plunge is entirely up to you.

What plunge you take is also entirely up to you.

You are the captain, first mate, and crew on your life journey. You have all the power and resources you need in order to be successful.

But you have to take the plunge no matter how difficult or impossible it may seem.

I’m not ready to live without Nick. I’m simply not. But I won’t let the fact that he’s not in the other room across the hall stop me from living the life I was meant to lead.

My heart is still sad, heavy, but strong.

Weekly Challenge

What’s been nagging at you lately?

We’ve all been faced with the requirement to change our daily lives due to the pandemic we’re all still dealing with and will always continue to deal with.

Maybe that’s your biggest hurtle at the moment.

Or, perhaps, you’ve encountered a new obstacle in your path as I have that’s preventing you from achieving your desired happiness.

I challenge you this week to identify what in your life is making you unhappy.

I challenge you this week to identify what changes have occurred that have otherwise upset your comfortable lifestyle.

I challenge you this week to identify what longtime issues you’ve ignored, backburnered, and otherwise chosen not to face headfirst to eliminate their nuisance.

I challenge you this week to open yourself up to the possibilities you have in front of you because of the unhappiness, discomforts, and nuisances.

Take the plunge! Take on your life!

Take this as an opportunity to grow and get better.

Take this as an opportunity to do more with the talents you possess.

Take this opportunity solely for you.

You are the number one person in your life. You are the center of your universe.

If you’re unhappy, uncomfortable, or holding back… you’re do you a disservice more than anything else.

So take the plunge this week!

I’ll be there taking the plunge with you hand in hand.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

The link to the book containing Arthur Schopenhauer’s philosophies, Schopenhauer: The World as Will and Representation: Volume 2 (The Cambridge Edition of the Works of Schopenhauer, is an affiliate link. If you purchase the book following my link I will receive a small kickback, and you will receive a wonderful edition to your collection! I have not read this book, but today’s quote has me inspired to share with you some of his work.

I’d love it if you shared some of the ways this week’s quote has made you feel, and what plunge you plan to take on this week or have taken on in the past!

We each have a unique journey, and I would love to share in yours.

3 August 2020 – Manage the Stress

Weekly YES Quote!

“It takes time for nature to change things into what they’re becoming. It takes time for things to develop. Be patient with yourself and life. Trust the process of growth.”

Melody Beattie, Journey to the Heart: Daily Meditations on the Path to Freeing Your Soul

(Journey to the Heart is an affiliate link)

Weekly Reflection

My heart is sad.

My heart is heavy.

My heart is strong.

These last two weeks haven’t been the best for me: my close friend who I’d been in direct contact with contracted the novel coronavirus, and I thought I may be infected wherein I may have infected my CEO, General Manager, and basically the entire staff at my office; and my best friend, Nick, and I decided to separate once our lease ends meaning the real life Will & Grace won’t be living together any longer.

These two intense and personal situations have distracted me from writing the weekly Monday YES post in addition to living my full and happy life.

I let the stress overwhelm me.

I forgot to look at the glass half full or even at the glass at all.

I know I can get through both of these happenings.

I am a strong, capable woman who can and will achieve whatever I set my mind to.

And that’s exactly what I did: I took action when I felt extremely helpless, overwhelmed, and sad.

I researched COVID-19 rapid testing facilities, booked an appointment, got tested… results: negative.

Massive sigh of relief.

I hugged Nick, cried with Nick, and started the apartment search. I not only found a nice place within my budget and location preferences, but Nick went with me to look at it. So although it won’t be his and mine, in a way the new spot will have a little sparkle of Nick in it.

Cue more tears, but at least these tears are of happiness.

Change is hard. Life is hard.

No one ever said that life would be easy.

And it’s good to feel – it’s good to acknowledge what stresses us out, but it’s not good to let the stress win us over so that we’re unable to function.

Weekly Challenge

Is there something or some things that have been distracting you?

We all have stressors and things that trigger an emotional response that causes a detriment to our smiles.

It’s natural to hit obstacles that seem like massive boulders we’ll never be able to climb over and move past.

And when I say, “move past,” I’m talking about arms pumping, legs kicking, and energy bursting from your miraculous body. I’m talking about striding with pride, dignity, and joy as you move past that obstacle!

If anything has been ailing you recently please, challenge yourself to take on the challenge and manage the stress.

Do not let the stress manage you.

For you are brave, bold, strong, and capable. You can and will overcome anything you set your mind to.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

The link to Melody Beattie’s book, Journey to the Heart: Daily Meditations on the Path to Freeing Your Soul, is an affiliate link. If you purchase the book following my link I will receive a small kickback, and you will receive a wonderful edition to your collection! This book is among my favorites – In my not morning person ways, I wake up every morning, grab my tea/coffee depending on my mood and desired caffeine intake, and read the day’s passage. 

I’d love it if you shared some of the ways this week’s quote has made you feel, and what stressors you’ve been faced with, how you plan to overcome them, or simply how you have overcome major stressors in the past.

We each have a unique journey, and I would love to share in yours.

13 July 2020 – Overcome Your Limits

Weekly YES Quote!

“If you’re serious about changing your life, you’ll find a way. If you’re not, you’ll find an excuse.”

Jen Sincero, You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life

(You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life is an affiliate link)

Weekly Reflection

Getting back from Colorado was rough… not only did we have to drive 13+ hours in a car, but I had to reset my mind and rejoin the regular work force the following day.

I’d just spent so much time doing me: yoga on the deck overlooking the mountains, hiking through the trees while taking in the fresh air, not giving a [bleep] in order to permit myself to be the center of my universe. The thought alone of having to give these moments up to wake to an alarm, put on fresh clothes, get my face ready for action, hop in my car, burn fuel on the freeway, set my computer items down at my work station, and begin to converse with others about what happened during my absence, return, and subsequent day, was an exhausting thought.

Fortunately, though the last paragraph makes it appear that I’m casting mad hate, I love my job and more so I love my coworkers.

So while I was lamenting the drive I was looking forward to some things that were enticing about returning to the office.

Two days at work… hello Friday afternoon… hello burnout.

I was so tired come the end of Friday.

Whenever you leave for vacation you know you have a lot to deal with upon your return. No complaints here… again, I love my job and it’s good to be employed in 2020… but man oh man two days in the office when I’d had 7 days to decompress in the mountains… needless to say it was a lot.

Friday rolled around and I took advantage of the weekend.

Needing to continue my streak of physical excellence I opted for a 60 minute advanced session of upper body strength using the Down Dog Yoga app.

I yoga on the regular, I mediate on the regular, I center on the regular… I also 60 minute advanced [fill in the blank] yoga on the regular, but something about the upper body strength session I participated in was beyond my abilities.

About 45 minutes in I was not only dripping sweat all over my mat and sucking wind heavily (goodbye ujjayi breath), but I was deeply wondering can I see this?

I kept pushing… crow, cobra, up dog, downward facing dog, three legged dog, lizard,

Got it! Okay… 35 minutes.. I can keep this up…

A couple more rounds then we took an easy seat.

Woo! I thought. Finally we’re headed for savasana.

Ha! Not. The. Case.

We started at lolasana (seated position putting weight in the hands while raising the hips), and then we worked our way into elephant trunk pose. r

Again, got it!

When my arms and wrists began to think hahaha we done yet? we went into eight angles pose.

My mind literally went, the [bleep]??!! No joke… fell on my face.

Struggled to maybe accomplish the pose and just when I was halfheartedly successfully we maneuvered into koundiyanasana ii… if you don’t know the pose please Google it.

I can do koundiyanasana ii (no bragging I swear) from lizard, but from whatever-pretzel-question-mark-just-open-mouth-gape… you get it. I simply could not.

Now that’s not to say that I will never be able to bust out this entire yoga routine from start to finish! I’m way too competitive and strong-willed to let this instance keep me from pushing myself to the next level.

I have found my limit and I aim to overcome it.

I understood during today’s practice that I wasn’t able to get through this practice in one swift go: I need to practice more in order to get better, stronger, and more capable of these moves in order to perform the routine from start to finish.

Weekly Challenge

Think on what’s been keeping you from advancing.

Is it something related to work, exercise, or self-esteem? Is it related to something else that affects your deepest desires and wants for you? Have you come to a plateau that you seem to be unable to overcome?

The fact that you’ve found them is beautiful in and of itself.

If you hadn’t found these obstacles in your path you wouldn’t be trying to further and better yourself.

You cannot simply meander through life – through some super hard [bleep] – if you don’t come upon an obstacle or million-and-a-half. It’s simply not feasible.

I found my limit today: my obstacle.

I’ve been trying to further my yoga practice, and I will gladly admit that I was feeling pretty boss until the practice today. I was crushing the advanced moves! I was feeling like an unconquerable being! Then… well, if you read the reflection above, I got my boss feelings handed to me on a silver platter.

I’m grateful for this.

If I wasn’t being challenged, if I wasn’t able to find my obstacles to overcome to further my practice, I would simply stop, saunter, and potentially pout that the world was just all too easy (which the world is definitely not).

I will overcome this limit this week or month or months or year or years… whatever it takes.

This week I challenge you to find your limit, and I further challenge you to overcome it.

Yes, the word limit is a bit disheartening since its literal definition is a point or level beyond which something does not or may not extend or pass… but is that what’s stopping you? Do you truly believe you cannot overcome that limit – that obstacle – that you’re facing that will bring you to the next level?

NO!

Don’t let your life be stopped short due to your limits.

Let your life flourish as you acknowledge and overcome your limits.

I’m here, trying to maintain my ujjayi breath, as I push past my own limits.

Find your limits, acknowledge them, and overcome them this week.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

The link to Jen Sincero’s book, You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life, is an affiliate link. If you purchase the book following my link I will receive a small kickback, and you will receive a wonderful edition to your collection! This book is among my favorites – Jen Sincero tells it like it is and says it with power, grace, and affirmation. I love her writing.

I’d love it if you shared some of the ways this week’s quote has made you feel, and what challenges, obstacles, or limits you’ve been faced with, how you plan to overcome them, or simply how you have overcome major obstacles in the past.

We each have a unique journey. I would love to share in yours.

6 July 2020 – Wash Your Spirit Clean

Weekly YES Quote!

“Keep close to Nature’s heart… and break clear away, once in a while, and climb a mountain or spend a week in the woods. Wash your spirit clean.”

John Muir

(Essential Muir: A Selection of John Muir’s Best Writings (California Legacy Book) is an affiliate link)

Weekly Reflection

The Fourth of July has always been a massive party for me and my friends. Besides my birthday, which usually falls on Memorial Day Weekend, the Fourth of July is by far my favorite holiday.

We plan a beach day, BBQ, or hangout session of some sort to spend the day without a care in the world, enjoying each other’s company while celebrating America’s Birthday.

Hello red, white, and blue everywhere!

But this year, with obvious reason… not so much.

Stress and anxiety had been mounting for me as the holiday weekend approached.

Would there be fireworks? Would I see my friends? If we could get a small group together, would we be able to chill on the beach and finish the day with a bonfire? Would anyone even want to get together? Would we be able to celebrate America’s birthday with some semblance of our stereotypical SoCal style?

So, rather than stay in San Diego, California, over the holiday weekend wondering what would and would not be available or happen, my close girlfriends and I loaded the car and hit the road for Durango, Colorado.

We planned a weekend to yoga, hike, river raft, lie in the hammock to enjoy a good book, paddle board… any activity that would get us outside and out of our negative head space.

And I will tell you, we have done just that: yoga, hike, river raft, read, and paddle board.

As John Muir says in this week’s yes quote:

“Keep close to Nature’s heart… and break clear away, once in a while, and climb a mountain or spend a week in the woods. Wash your spirit clean.”

Sometimes we need to immerse ourselves in nature to properly cleanse the spirit.

For me that meant leaving Southern California for Colorado.

For you it may mean something different.

What’s important is taking the time to get out of our regular routine to transport ourselves into Mother Nature’s loving embrace.

Weekly Challenge

When was the last time you stepped out into nature?

I’m not saying go surround yourself by trees to the point where no light pollution from town is visible (unless that’s your jam).

Maybe there’s a park you’ve been wanting to picnic at.

Maybe there’s a beach you’ve been wanting to walk to feel the light ocean breeze, sand between your toes, and salt water misting on your face.

Maybe there’s a grove of trees you’ve been wanting to take a casual stroll through.

Maybe there’s a river, creek, lake, or other body of water you’ve been wanting to dip your feet in while letting your mind wander.

Maybe there’s an outdoor walking path you’ve been wanting to walk or run.

Whatever your nature spot is, go there.

Take the time to sit in nature and release the worries that have been mounting.

Maybe the Fourth of July holiday doesn’t matter to you – that’s fine. The Fourth of July holiday is only one occasion we haven’t been able to fully partake in.

We’ve missed birthdays, other holidays, regular gatherings… shoot, basic hugging and handshakes have been discarded by the wayside.

We’ve all been halted from making or having plans for various reasons due to this global pandemic.

So take the time to go out into your happy place in nature.

Take the time to breathe in the fresh air to put life back into your amazing body.

Take the time to cleanse your spirit.

Challenge yourself to go do something in nature this week.

And when you’re in nature, take the time to let go of what you don’t have control over and simply appreciate that you’re here.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

The link to Fred D White’s, Essential Muir: A Selection of John Muir’s Best Writings (California Legacy Book), is an affiliate link. If you purchase this book following my link I will receive a small kickback, and you will receive a wonderful edition to your collection! 

I’d love it if you shared some of the ways this week’s quote has made you feel, and how stepping out into nature has affected your life.

 

 

 

29 June 2020 – From Ashes We Rise

Weekly YES Quote!

“Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.”

St Mother Teresa of Calcutta

(Do Something Beautiful for God: The Essential Teachings of Mother Teresa 365 Daily Reflections is an affiliate link)

Weekly Reflection

One year and one week ago marks the anniversary of my brother taking his life.

One year ago today marks the anniversary of his cremation.

I remember taking shots of Maker’s Mark 46 while we inevitably waited to approach the cremation chamber.

Then, after a couple of shots and some nice and snarky words (sappiness would’ve made my brother pop the casket top to give us the finger one last time), we watched the casket enter the chamber, door shut, and hello reality again.

I sometimes let myself feel sadness, but I also remember that each of us has a choice. We choose how we want to walk through this life or if we don’t. No one else, unless we relinquish control over the greatest gift bestowed onto us, can live this life for us.

Ashes to ashes, dust to dust…

Everything that has life will one day come to an end.

What’s important is that – for no matter how long we’re here – we make every moment count. 

We’re each unique, beautiful, strong, motivated, conscientious, willed, important, determined… in our own way or for something or someone we care deeply about. There are a million + adjectives I could list.

Something sparks life in each of us. Something gives us a reason to exist. Something drives us forward. Something makes us yearn for me. You have to define your something.

So, if you’re holding yourself back for any reason, please, tell that reason to F*** off. 

Tell the thing, person, place, mentality to take a hike.

Remove the boulder blocking your path towards a full and happy life.

My brother wasn’t able to defeat his demons in his human form. Even when he sought help from professionals he wasn’t able to overcome his issues. He would jokingly (and sometimes not) stick up his middle finger to life with a fatty grin on his quirky face… but it was all just a facade.

Don’t let this be your fate. This is your life.

You are the play maker. You can overcome any obstacle you face. You are the captain of your destiny. You are the only person who can hold you down. And you deserve to live the best, most full life you can imagine.

You will rise if you want to badly enough.

Weekly Challenge

Every day is a choice.

Every day we choose to open our eyes and say, “hell world,” even if it’s through half-open eyes with the knowledge that the coffee maker is exactly 21 steps from the side of the bed you choose to sleep on (yes, I know the exact step count to my coffee maker).

So tell me, what makes you tick?

What gets your blood pumping, heart racing, and mouth widening smile to beam across your lovely face? 

The challenge for this week will sound simple, but as you get to the activity you may find yourself racking your brain for more answers. I know the first time I did this activity – and it’s been many times since – that I still run into a typical hmmm… what else? scenario.

This week, write down 21 reasons why you exist. 

I want you to keep this list close to you – in a journal/planner, on a piece of paper folded in your wallet/purse, on a napkin next to your bedside table, in a Google Doc… whatever medium makes sense for you so that can easily reference the list.

The list doesn’t need to be fancy or beautifully written (oof, if you could see my penmanship you’d cringe).

But the list needs to be nearby so that you can reference it often – especially whenever you’re not feeling like your best and brightest you.

This activity may seem silly or like a waste of your time, but I promise you it is not.

For one, it gives you the opportunity to see exactly how badass you are! Gloat a bit! Feel awesome and indulge in your awesomeness! This is between you and you.

The list gives you something to reflect on when you’re not feeling up to par. That moment something just doesn’t quite go your way… pull that list out, read it over, and feel empowered by the reasons you know you’re here.

We’re each here for unique reasons.

Only you can define what those reasons are.

Even if you survey and seek advice from others, at the end of the day those answers need to resonate with you.

So list them out. List at least 21 reasons why you’re here. And, if you can (and I know you can!), go beyond 21 reasons.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

The link to the daily meditations book, Do Something Beautiful for God: The Essential Teachings of Mother Teresa 365 Daily Reflections, is an affiliate link. If you purchase this book following my link I will receive a small kickback, and you will receive a wonderful edition to your collection! I wake up every morning, crack open my meditations book, and reflect before beginning my day.

I’d love it if you shared some of the ways this week’s quote has made you feel, and what some of the responses are on your 21 reasons list!

 

 

 

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