20 April 2020 – Don’t Cheat Yourself

Weekly YES Quote!

“The first and worst of all frauds is to cheat one’s self. All sin is easy after that.

Pearl Bailey (quote from Badass Affirmations: The Wit and Wisdom of Wild Women by Becca Anderson)

 (Badass Affirmations: The Wit and Wisdom of Wild Women is an affiliate link)

Weekly Reflection

As a resident of Southern California, I’ve been abiding by the quarantine rules for a little over a month now.

It’s been difficult, boring, and simply dull… but I’ve managed thus far because I understand the importance of these rules.

All that being said, I haven’t been the best to myself during this quarantine process.

Prior to the quarantine my week day’s included going to the gym, refraining from drinking alcohol, and eating healthy foods throughout the day. Once quarantine struck the gym closed as did bars and restaurants and, frankly, the grocery store became my least favorite place to go.

I stopped my good habits I’d worked so hard to develop all because my routine was thrown a curve ball.

Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday… Blursday night…

Why not have an alcoholic beverage? Don’t airplane rules apply when in quarantine?

Why bother going out for a run or any other exercise? When was the last time I went for a run anyway?

Why grocery shop when I can order Uber Eats? Grocery stores are crawling with potentially infected people anyway, right?

These thoughts crept into my head and the resulting actions decided to camp out… for almost a month.

Once I get into my routine I’m set! But the routine door swings both ways: good and bad.

A little over a week ago I realized I was cheating myself out of happiness by letting myself destroy all of the good habits I’d created. 

I felt somewhat depressed from the consistent alcohol consumption, stale from the laziness of lounging around, and gross from the unhealthy delivery foods I’d been ingesting.

The number one person in the world I should be looking out for is myself, and I was letting myself down.

I’m proud to say I haven’t drank alcohol in a little over a week; I’ve been running, walking, and/or doing yoga every single day; and I’ve been eating clean and healthy foods.

Now that’s not to say that I’ve given up the bottle forever or won’t enjoy a good burger from time to time… in fact I’m planning to celebrate this 3 week getting back on track period with a Negroni (for those of you who don’t know Negronis are my kryptonite).

What I am saying is just because one massive boulder roadblocks you, it doesn’t mean you should park the car and give up on finding an alternate route so that you can continue on your well driven journey.

As Pearl Bailey is quoted as saying in the book Badass Affirmations: The Wit and Wisdom of Wild Women by Becca Anderson:

“The first and worst of all frauds is to cheat one’s self. All sin is easy after that.

So don’t cheat yourself.

Instead, find a way so that you can continue loving yourself. 

I needed to remind myself of that, and I’m here to remind you of it as well if you’ve let slip an important part of yourself because of this quarantine or for any other reason.

Weekly Challenge

Think of something you need that you’ve let slip because of the lifestyle changes you’ve had to make.

Please, take a moment and ask yourself:

  • Have you lost faith in something or someone? Is it important that you regain that faith, or is it a good thing you’ve let it go?
  • Have you fallen into a downward spiral of drinking, drugs, depression, or the like? Can you pinpoint the exact trigger that started this downward motion?
  • Have you lost touch with people who used to matter most to you? Is it because they were physically present and therefore convenient or do you really need those people and simply need to make an additional effort to get back in touch with them?
  • Have you lost the desire to get out of bed in the morning? What used to entice you to get out of the bed every morning before, and could you find a new reason to get up?
  • Have you simply felt bored most days without much purpose? What used to give you meaning for your life before, and what new beginnings could you focus on to inspire you now?

Let your mind wander.

Let your mind take you on an inward journey.

Don’t cheat yourself of searching within to see what’s missing, what you’ve lost, or what you wish you had.

Maybe you’re in a better place without some or all of these things! Acknowledge what you’ve let go of and be proud of yourself for leaving them behind. Give yourself a hug, and tell yourself how proud you are of yourself!

Maybe you’re in a less good place than you were before the quarantine. Acknowledge that as well, and more importantly, acknowledge why you’re in a less good place. Give yourself a hug and tell yourself that you can and will get through this. Seriously… wrap your arms around yourself and tell yourself you love yourself and you will get through this!

I wake up every morning smiling because I love myself. Even on mornings when I’m not proud of yesterday’s accomplishments I wake up loving myself because I know I can do better, and I decide I will do better.

Some days aren’t our best. Shoot… some days we just need a break.

But any day can be that day, and any day can be the day you turn it around!

So make this Monday that day, and carry this drive with you throughout the week and those weeks to come.

Even after this quarantine is over there will be other obstacles showing their hideous faces while trying to stop you in your path.

You have to be ready to take anything on at any time. You have to be ready to let go and pick up when it matters most.

Now go make that day today and make this week count.

Do it for your number one: Y-O-U.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

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The link to Becca Anderson’s book, Badass Affirmations: The Wit and Wisdom of Wild Women, is an affiliate link. If you purchase the book following my link I will receive a small kickback, and you will receive a wonderful edition to your collection! This book is among my favorites – I own it and reference it regularly, especially when I need a pick me up from some of my fellow badass women.

Published by yesmaamaly

Aly Bonomini is the creator of the blogs Yes Ma'am! & Cheesy Vegans. She is an avid adventurer, experience enthusiast, and motivator who lives her life by the motto: "Just say yes!"

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