30 March 2020 – Let’s Kick Some Ass!

Weekly YES Quote!

“In order to kick ass you must first lift up your foot.”

Jen Sincero, You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life

Weekly Reflection

I’ve been battling with some weird mood swings since California put the shelter-in-place order into effect.

I’m not saying I’m surprised… we’ve all had to make sacrifices in order to prevent the rapid spreading of COVID-19… but man oh man do I crave normalcy again as I’m sure you do as well.

  • My work routine has become more remote (actually loving that since I’m able to be more productive, though I miss my amazing coworkers who swing by my desk on the regular to say hi and inquire about my day and inform me about theirs).
  • My exercise routine has taken a serious shift (I’m starting to run around my neighborhood more now that my favorite studio has temporarily closed – missing my lovely fitness friends and gnarly workouts… like, hardcore).
  • My human interaction has gone 95%+ virtual and the other portion of the time it’s paranoid 6 feet of social distancing, which… let’s be honest… we all need that touch to complete the human interaction even if it’s a high five.
  • My dining out game is the lowest it’s ever been (I have a happy wallet, but I’m totally missing my Sunday solo dinner dates at my regular San Diego pho spot – phonatic phosho right here).

The above, just to be clear, aren’t heavy sacrifices that I’ve had to make, but they are key things in my life that bring me joy which I’ve had to give up or alter – and that sucks.

Maybe your sacrifices are heavier, lighter, or similar – it doesn’t matter. Your lifestyle in some way has been altered, and that’s frustrating if not uncomfortable and extremely difficult.

As humans we crave routine even if our routine is seemingly routine-less. And once that routine has been interrupted with an inability to forecast when we can gain it back, we begin to feel a tad helpless.

That was the conclusion I came to this morning: I’m tired of feeling helpless

There is always something we can do to turn this frown upside down, look at the glass half full, see the light at the end of the tunnel…

This quarantine, this shelter-in-place, this slow-down of life gives us each the opportunity to reflect inward to assess our lives, see where we’re at, measure ourselves against our goals… It gives us the opportunity to take action to grow ourselves in a way that maybe we’ve been putting on the back-burner because we just didn’t have enough time. 

It gives us the opportunity to kick some ass!

You heard me – left, right, left foot up in the air and kicking! Or maybe you prefer right, left, right – as long as you’re ready to lift those feet to make moves baby!

So what is it you’ve been needing or wanting? What is that special it which will help you to grow as a person?

Grip it tight because it’s yours. You are not helpless when it comes to achieving it, and you are fully capable and in control of going for it no matter what is going on around you.

Weekly Challenge

I want you to repeat after me, “I am not helpless. I am in control of my life. I will use this opportunity to reflect inward and pursue what I need in order to grow as a person.”

After saying these words aloud you might be thinking to yourself, “I can’t do that… I’m not physically able to go to my place of work.” Or “I can’t do that… I don’t have the first clue how to even get started with something like this.” Or even “I can’t do that… I don’t even know what that is!”

Well I’m here to deliver you the same message Jen Sincero delivered to me when I was reading her motivational and amazing book, You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life:

“In order to kick ass you must first lift up your foot.”

That’s right yes ma’ams and sirs, you can achieve that it!

Sure… you can’t physically go into the office or actual establishment that you’ve grown accustomed to frequenting to and from, but you can make a plan and set an intention.

Maybe you don’t know how to get started and that’s okay too! Take some time today or during the week to do some research or phone someone who you’ve seen succeed with something similar so you can pick their brain about it. For remember, if you knew all along how to get there you’d likely already be there.

And no worries if your mind is blank, and you’re at a loss for what the heck it is.

Put your phone, laptop, tablet away; turn off the TV, radio, Spotify; and go to a space solely your own without any distractions. Sit or lie down comfortably and close your eyes. Take a deep breath in, then let it out. Focus on your breathing and let everything else go.

Once your mind is reset give another try at defining what that it is. When you’re ready, it will come to you.

You are the only person who can hold you back from growing into the person you crave to be or gaining fulfillment by satisfying a need.

We are never helpless or without control, but we must first take the step required to get us moving in the direction we need to go.

Now go forth and kick some serious ass this week! 

Do not let yourself be limited by your surroundings or hesitate to reach or step in a direction you’ve never gone before.

And if it feels like no one else is with you on this journey, know that I am – I’ll be right beside you helping you to kick ass because I know you’re worth it and you deserve it.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention and kick start your week.

As a disclaimer, I will receive a kickback from the affiliate links if you choose to make a purchase.

23 March 2020 – Find Your Purpose: Find Your Happiness

Weekly YES Quote

“The purpose of life is to be happy.”

Dalai Lama

Weekly Reflection

Happiness should never be measured by the amount of money in ones bank account, the quality of clothing on ones back, or the number of stamps in ones passport book.

Though it can be true that having more money provides you with the ability to afford to do activities that bring you joy, American-made clothing doesn’t promote sweatshops and provides those talented persons making the clothing with a fair wage and benefits which may make you feel more at peace with your spending, and experiencing cultures outside of your own can make you a more well-rounded and aware person when making choices that can affect others.

Recently a friend asked me what my purpose in life was.

It’s been a long time since someone with genuine ears at the ready asked me a deep and meaningful question that forced me to look inward and really analyze myself.

I paused to give this solid consideration before answering him that I believe I was meant to lead people.

I believe that I am meant to help others get to where they need to be by leading, coaching, and inspiring them. Helping someone to achieve their goals brings me immense happiness, and therefore, I believe leading is my purpose.

I am so grateful that he asked me that question.

That question inspired me the to share with you the importance of striving for what makes you happy.

Weekly Challenge

I challenge you to ask yourself the simple question:

“How am I today?”

Seriously! Don’t you roll your eyes at me.

How… are you… today?

I want you to stop and give this simple question some real thought. I want you to give this simple question your undivided attention.

I want you to put everything else you’re doing down, away, or out of sight, close your eyes, take a deep breath in, take a deep breath out, and really answer this question as yourself to yourself.

Well?

If you can’t answer it right away try clearing your mind again. Bring focus to yourself, your feelings, your emotions…

Be confident in your answer. Don’t even think about bullshitting yourself.

Now that you’ve centered yourself, ask yourself: what is my purpose?

Again, if the answer doesn’t immediately come to mind, take a deep breath in, let the breath out, and then ask yourself:

  • what drives me forward?
  • what gets up me up in the morning?
  • when I reflect on the great things that happened during the day, what sticks out the most?
  • and ultimately, what makes me happy?

Now, write it down, and put your purpose in a place where you’ll be able to easily access and see it.

I challenge you to reflect on your purpose every morning you wake up this week, and may it drive everything you do each day towards achieving your well-deserved happiness.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention and kick start your week.

As a disclaimer, I will receive a kickback from the affiliate links if you choose to make a purchase.

16 March 2020 – Appreciate What You Have Today

Weekly YES Quote!

“Why didn’t I learn to treat everything like it was the last time? My greatest regret was how much I believed in the future.”
Jonathan Safran Foer, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close

Weekly Reflection

I’m just going to start by calling out the elephant in the room: COVID-19.

The more news I watch on television, scroll through on Twitter, and hear about from coworkers, friends, and family members, the more I realize how important and quickly things can change.

How priorities we once had have become depriorities: going into the office, going on a coffee date with a friend, hitting the gym on your lunch break… all these social activities or activities that take place in public places are being dismissed left and right as the priority of social interaction has been traded out for isolation and quarantine.

How the big meeting you’ve been stressing and busting your ass preparing for may be pushed weeks out. How much hair did you lose in the process that now seems like a big ol’ waste of time?

How professional sporting seasons and concert hall performances are getting cancelled. I mean how many of you already made your March Madness brackets and got all stoked to talk smack and win some money only to find out that the event won’t be happening?

Hell, we can’t even go to the supermarket to purchase toilet paper because everyone and their mother is buying it all up! Like seriously people!?

We need to focus on what we have now and be present in our daily lives.

It doesn’t do us any good to only look ahead to the future when everything can change in an instant.

This week’s quote is from a book (Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close) about a 9-year-old boy, Oskar Schell, whose father dies suddenly in the tragic collapse of the World Trade Center on 11 September.

How often do you catch yourself taking things for granted like your parents, your animals, your siblings, your partner, your coworkers, your car, your job, your housing location, your housing situation, your meal preferences, your dedication to your country, your philanthropic contributions to society…

Maybe not all of these are applicable to you, which is more than okay, but how often do you stop to appreciate the person or activity in the moment when it’s actually happening?

Weekly Challenge

I won’t give you a cliche wash your hands for 20 seconds minimum challenge – though please do to prevent the spread of germs. And, oh yeah, cover your mouth when you cough, thanks;)

Instead I challenge you to reconnect with someone you’ve lost touch with.

I want you to really dig deep to consider who that someone is.

I want you to listen to your gut.

And when that first name pops into your head I don’t want you to erase it Etch A Sketch style or try to come up with someone else.

Write that someone’s name down, write down the reason they popped into your mind, open your phone for what its intended purpose was, and dial the number pertaining to that person.

There’s a reason that someone came to mind – DO NOT IGNORE that reason.

It likely isn’t going to be easy or might even be a bit uncomfortable, but if it was going to be easy and comfortable then that someone likely wouldn’t have come to mind.

Maybe that someone isn’t even someone else. Maybe that someone is you.

Whoever that someone is, show them the attention they deserve and listen to them when you talk to them. Be honest with that someone and allow yourself to reconnect.

You never know… you or they may not be here tomorrow.

Reminder to Just Say Yes and Follow Me!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more exciting Yescapades!

As a disclaimer, I was not paid by any of the above linked sites. This review is solely mine without any monetary compensation. I will however receive a kickback from the affiliate links if you choose to make a purchase.

9 March 2020 – Time to Get Uncomfortable

Weekly YES Quote

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

Elizabeth Appel

Weekly Reflection

Have you ever thought to yourself, wow it would be so awesome if or if only X would happen it would make everything so much easier?

Like, fill in the blank with that if  thought you’ve got floating around in your head right now!

Now think about what you may need to do for yourself to achieve that if

Is it outside of your knowledge base, thought up current reaches, or comfort zone? Well, I have a news flash for you: it’s time to get uncomfortable!

You deserve the best and NO ONE… I mean seriously, no one… is simply going to deliver it to you on a golden platter.

Take myself for example – I’m tired of living paycheck to paycheck while trying to reduce my debt, save for property to have as my own in a location I want, and have enough PTO and money to comfortably travel to see the world and the people I care about most.

Being a single woman in Southern California doesn’t exactly offer me the opportunity to do all of the above – California is only becoming more expensive

When I think about the how to make my if I had enough money statement a reality I become extremely nauseated because until recently I had no idea how to change my financial situation and that scared the hell out of me.

But so what!

I have the power to do something about it and make that if a reality and so do you!

Or, you and I can just get mundanely comfortable where we’re at with no room to blossom.

In true Aly Yes Ma’am fashion (with all due respect of course)… fuck that.

Weekly Challenge

I challenge you to write down your list of ifs.

Brainstorm what would…

  • make your life better
  • relieve stress and take some serious weight off your shoulders
  • help fulfill a void you’ve been feeling lately
  • bring a smile to your face and fill your body with giddy joy
  • help improve the life of someone dear to you who may be going through a rough time

Then I want you to jot down how you’re going to make moves to change these if situations.

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself – that won’t help the process.

Instead, if you’re having trouble, take the process slowly.

Maybe…

  • taking 15 minutes away from your phone to disconnect from the social media world will make your life better by helping you to refocus your efforts on yourself instead of what you see everyone else doing.
  • eliminating an unnecessary task like having to grocery shop at 5 different stores in order to make 1 meal will relieve some stress that’s been building in your life lately.
  • volunteering for that organization you’ve been meaning to reach out to or give your time to to help a cause dear to your heart will help fill a void you’ve let sit and possibly grow.
  • going for a hike, enjoying a solo coffee date, going to the movies to catch that new flick, or cracking open that new book you haven’t had time to read will put a fatty grin on your face.
  • picking up the phone to call that someone you’ve been thinking about will make their day.

Whatever it is – DO IT! Don’t hesitate to get uncomfortable in order to improve your life!

For me, I joined the Arbonne business to provide me with the flexibility of earning additional income so that I don’t have to give up and settle. Arbonne is the perfect avenue for my busy life schedule to provide me with the additional income I crave to kick my ifs to the curb.

There’s a solution for each of our if scenarios.

We just have to be determined enough to figure out what the avenue is, and when shit gets real uncomfortable… we have to step up to the plate and swing for the fence!

Never let the uncomfortable keep you from a better, more rewarding life – you owe it to yourself.

Reminder to Just Say Yes and Follow Me!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more exciting Yescapades!

As a disclaimer, I was not paid by any of the above linked sites. This review is solely mine without any monetary compensation. I will however receive a kickback from the affiliate links if you choose to make a purchase.

The Future of Fashion is Thrifty: Best Thrift Stores in San Diego

Today’s Fashion Scene is THRIFTY AF

Stop the Madness – Stop the Retail Shopping

As a materialistic society (don’t roll your eyes you know it’s true) we’re constantly searching for the latest trends in fashion, and there’s nothing that you can’t order online and have delivered to your door within a couple of business days.

But is that really what we should be doing as a society?

Should we really be spending our hard earned cash on retail material items from Nordstrom, Nieman Marcus, Macy’s, Forever 21… even going deeper into household items such as Bed Bath & Beyond, Target, Bath and Body Works… I could write an endless list of retail stores. And don’t get me started on Amazon…

Be Thrifty and Shop at Thrift Stores

More and more people are making the switch and going the thrift store approach to stop the madness of crazy high price tags and supporting the overabundance of sweatshop support and overpopulation of material just… excuse my French… shit.

So why should you shop at thrift stores you might be asking? – Well, let me share with you some awesome reasons why thrift store shopping is of great benefit:

1. Thrift Store Shopping is Better for the Environment

That’s right my fellow environmentally aware friends – thrift store shopping is better for the environment.

We have enough junk floating around causing more and more pollution. People shop on the regular, outgrow stuff (physically and emotionally), and then simply decide to discard or donate the items. And where do you think those items go?

SCIENCELINE did a study on The Troubled Second Life of Donated Clothes of where donated clothes wind up, and the results shouldn’t surprise anyone: while some of our donations are able to be re-sold at Thrift Stores, the others are shipped off to other countries or end up in landfills.

2. Thrift Store Shopping is Good on Your Wallet

Thrift stores, like I hit on before, carry donated items that are seen as holding value to modern day consumers.

Some popular brands I’ve been able to stumble upon at thrift stores include Madewell, True Religion, Free People, Anthropologie, Calvin Klein… and all for a fraction of the price!

So not only are you helping with the reuse / recycle mentality to keep items from being dumped in the laps of other countries or from winding up in a landfill, but you’re also helping purchase quality items that don’t break the bank!

And hey! The longer these items are able to be passed from hand to hand – because let’s face it, you’re going to grow tired of the items at some point likely and end up donating them back into the stream – the longer they stay out of the trash.

3. Thrift Store Shopping Sparks Creativity

How tired do you grow looking at advertisements from The Gap and Old Navy?

They seem to put out the same dull “designer” look no matter what year we’re in or fashion trend seems to be going on. Like, hello, where’s the creativity?

Thrift stores are full of gems waiting to be unearthed and incorporated into your wardrobe!

Trends are always coming back around and into fashion. Use high waisted / super-tapered pants for example! Extra low-rise pants are a total thing of the past and high waisted is so in again. Just wait, bell-bottoms aren’t too far away from becoming mainstream again – I’m calling it!

And that’s what’s great about thrift stores: you never know what you’re going to find, but wouldn’t you rather find it at a thrift store for the fraction of the price knowing you didn’t contribute to the landfill down the road or worse the landfill across the pond?

San Diego’s Best Thrift Stores

So, without further ado, I want to share with you the best thrift stores in San Diego based on their selection, mission, and other fun factors that make them the best thrift stores to shop at.

Flashbacks Recycled Fashion

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Photo from Yelp

Flashback Recycled Fashion is a thrift store located at 576 S Coast Highway 101, Encinitas, CA 92024.

This thrift store wins major points for… you guessed it… flashback items!

Talking to creativity this thrift store is never a miss. This thrift store carries wigs, costume jewelry, wacky and business appropriate belts, and off-the-wall-where-did-you-find-that clothing / shoes / accessories / jackets… you name it!

Whenever I’m in the mood for something different to really set the tone for my wardrobe I think of Flashbacks Recycled Fashion thrift store.

Thinking about going to that fun costume party your neighbor was talking about the other day, rave in the desert you’ve been wanting to attend, or general outfit face-lift you’ve been meaning to undergo… look no further than this thrift store. You’re bound to find something that’ll give you the extra edge you’re looking for!

AMVETS Thrift Store

Team Amvets Thrift Store is a thrift store located at 3441 Sutherland St #2031, San Diego, CA 92110.

Now, there are many Team Amvets thrift stores throughout San Diego County, but this specific location is by far my favorite for nick knacks, trinkets, and household items.

Need a set of plates or glasses? Looking for some board or video games? Trying to furnish your apartment, house, guest house, or vacation rental? I recommend checking out the AMVETS Thrift Store.

Furthermore, proceeds from purchases at AMVETS thrift stores go towards supporting veterans my providing programs and services.

Buffalo Exchange

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Photo from Buffalo Exchange

Buffalo Exchange is a thrift store located at 1079 Garnet Avenue, San Diego, CA 92109 in the Pacific Beach neighborhood.

Whenever I’m looking to sell and buy I look to Buffalo Exchange as my primary thrift store.

They will buy gently used shoes, clothing, and accessories such as handbags that are vintage, trending, or seeming to sell well (like high-waisted pants, shorts, and skirts).

This thrift store offers 30% of the selling price for those who want to keep the cash and bounce, or they offer 50% of the selling price for those who wish to receive store credit or go shopping same day.

If you are interested in selling I highly encourage you to go during the week. If you can’t go during the week because you work a 9-5 M-F grind like myself, I suggest you arrive early and plan on waiting a while… like at least an hour.

And don’t be discouraged if they don’t choose to buy your items from you – styles and what they’re buying change on the regular. Either keep the items for another day, put them for sale on Poshmark, or simply drop them off across the street at The Goodwill.

Now YOU’RE Thrifty AF

Consider making the change to thrift store shopping. You’ll be doing the environment, your wallet, and your creative fashionista personality a thrifty service.

Reminder to Just Say Yes and Follow Me!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more exciting Yescapades!

As a disclaimer, I was not paid by any of the above linked sites. This review is solely mine without any monetary compensation. I will however receive a kickback from the affiliate links if you choose to make a purchase.

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