7 September 2020 – Choose Life Over Stress

Weekly YES Quote!

“Stress is not what happens to us. It’s our response to what happens. And response is something we can choose at any moment.”

Maureen Killoran

(Maureen Killoran, Jumpstart Creativity Hypnosis)

Weekly Reflection

Before COVID-19 I worked 5 days a week 8 hours (or more) per day.

Friday evening I’d come home absolutely exhausted awaiting the burnout that would inevitably ensue from grinding day after day.

Three-day weekends were my salvation.

I’d map out my work efforts in relation to when the next holiday weekend would arrive so that I could enjoy that pencils down moment.

But is that what we should be focused on?

Pushing and pushing… giving our all… until we can reward ourselves by relaxing for a mere three days in the grand scheme of the number of days we work.

I love my job and what I do. Every day I’m faced with new challenges, I have a great work-life balance, and I see my contribution towards the company’s success.

Although COVID-19 has been hell for many including myself, it has helped me to remember what’s important in life as well as helping me to reinvent the way I work.

The biggest work-related achievement for me through this experience was learning to balance my work stress and push by spending some days remote to crank out what I need to get done without anyone else swinging by to tell me how their weekend was.

I still have a long ways to go with time management, but this experience has helped me to prioritize my own workload so that a normal 8-hour day doesn’t result in an 8-hour let me help you be successful day + 2 hours to get my independent workload done.

I was able to walk into this three-day weekend already feeling relaxed, and that is a feeling I plan to carry with me throughout every week and weekend.

Life is a balancing act. We have to artfully navigate through the daily stressors while ensuring our mental health is strong, steadfast, and ready for anything life may throw at it.

As this week’s quote by Maureen Killoran reminds us,

“Stress is not what happens to us. It’s our response to what happens. And response is something we can choose at any moment.”

Weekly Challenge

Set aside all that you’re feeling the weight of and just breathe.

That’s right… breathe.

Take a moment alone to recenter yourself in order to release the regular stressors we’re faced with.

Sit in your favorite zen area whether it be a designated space in your home or garden, on a bench at the local park, along the harbor, in a lounge chair at the beach or on your porch…

Close your eyes.

Take a deep breath in through your nose and let it out through your mouth.

Feel the breath fill your lungs and every inch of your being before you expel it through your open mouth.

Force the air out slowly, gradually.

Let the exhale take with it all that’s been weighing on you.

Take another deep breath in through your nose and let it out through your mouth.

Feel more and more of the stress and unnecessary weight release from your being.

You should walk into work every day feeling confident, relaxed, and ready to tackle the day.

And when I say work I’m referring to moms, students, and what corporate America deems a job.

We all work so hard no matter what our immediate or long-term profession is.

And the only way we can give our all is if we avoid burnout and come into our office every day with a refreshed sense of self.

Challenge yourself this week to be mindful every day you walk into the office so that you’re not looking forward to the next three-day weekend.

There are fifty-two weekends in a year and only two of these weekends are designated as three-day holiday weekends (Memorial Day and Labor Day).

Think about that as you approach tomorrow, and give tomorrow and every day all you have to offer without sacrificing yourself to the endless amount of work and effort required of you.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

The link to Maureen Killoran’s mindfulness guide, Jumpstart Creativity Hypnosis, is an affiliate link. If you purchase the mindfulness AudioCD following my link I will receive a small kickback, and you will receive a wonderful edition to your collection! Maureen specializes in positive change. Should you be needing some of her magic to help you along your life’s journey (in addition to the weekly YES post and other selfcare you’ve been gifting yourself), I recommend listening to her AudioCD.

I’d love it if you shared some of the ways this week’s quote has made you feel, and what methods you’ve taken to release stressors you’ve experienced blockading your life’s journey.

We each have a unique journey, and I would love to share in yours.

31 August 2020 – Reconnect with Yourself

Weekly YES Quote!

“Taking time to honor the needs of your body is taking time to respect the needs of your soul.”

Melody Beattie

(Quote from Melody Beattie’s book, Journey to the Heart: Daily Meditations on the Path to Freeing Your Soul)

Weekly Reflection

Happy Monday and final day of August my fellow yessers!

Last week’s yes post was based on connecting or reconnecting with those you love (Work at Lifelong Relationships), and this week I want to bring focus back to the number one person in your life: Y-O-U.

I’ve been spending countless hours between moving into my new spot and my day job that pays the bills.

Every morning I wake up and get to work. It doesn’t matter if the work is paid or new pad based… at the end of the day it’s a lot of activity towards achieving a final goal, and the work can be exhausting.

Throughout the process I will admit that I’ve indulged in many an adult beverage, lost numerous hours of sleep, and simply haven’t been connecting with myself as much as it may appear that I am on the surface.

I need a break.

I haven’t practiced yoga or meditated in well over two weeks.

I haven’t woken up without an alarm or agenda in at least a week.

I haven’t taken the time to say, “Hi Aly! How are you today?” without thinking about all the boxes I need to check on my endless list.

And that’s downright rude to myself.

We cannot push and push and push without taking the time to practice self-care. 

We will end up imploding, feeling depressed, and/or losing sight of why we were even pushing so hard in the first place.

Weekly Challenge

This week (and month really) I’m taking a break from all the chaos.

I’m taking a break from the extra spending to replenish my bank account.

I’m taking a break from alcoholic beverages and dining out to cleanse my body.

I’m taking a break from the endless go go go activities that have distracted me from my yoga practice to rejuvenate my spirit.

I am taking action to reconnect with the number one person in my life: M-E.

Take this final day in August to determine how you want to start the month of September.

Maybe you’re losing focus at work because you’ve forgotten what the end goal is. Take a moment to remind yourself of why you work so hard in the first place, and if you cannot come up with that reason maybe you need to find a new one or maybe you need to find a new job.

Maybe you’ve been devoting all your time towards your kids or partner or someone else you hold dear to heart, which has kept you from taking a moment to love yourself in the process. While unconditional love towards those that matter most is important, you cannot lose touch with yourself or else you may grow to resent your loved ones for all the love you bestow upon them. You must love yourself first and prioritize yourself before you can prioritize anyone else.

Maybe you’ve been indulging in an unhealthy habit contrary to your better judgement, and you’re seeing a pattern you’re not happy with. Face the habit head-on. Look the habit dead in the face and tell yourself you’re going to stop. Your willpower is so strong! You can accomplish anything you set your mind to. And hey, maybe the habit isn’t so unhealthy that you need to stop it forever, but give yourself the time to reset and eliminate the pattern so that you can casually enjoy the habit again in the future.

Maybe you’ve been wanting to try something new or add a new activity to your plate, but with everything going on you simply haven’t made the time to do it. Will it spark joy for you? Will it bring you better peace of mind and happiness? Will it further you as a person? Then get on it this week! Make the time for yourself!

Set your intentions to reconnect with yourself.

Stop reading and wrap your arms around yourself.

Hug yourself and tell yourself that you love you.

Tell yourself how freaking awesome you are!

I’m dead serious!

Stop to embrace, love, and praise yourself.

I challenge you to keep you in the forefront of your mind this week.

For there’s no one more important in this world than Y-O-U.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

The link to Melody Beattie’s book, Journey to the Heart: Daily Meditations on the Path to Freeing Your Soul, is an affiliate link. If you purchase the book following my link I will receive a small kickback, and you will receive a wonderful edition to your collection! This book is among my favorites – In my not morning person ways, I wake up every morning, grab my tea/coffee depending on my mood and desired caffeine intake, and read the day’s passage. 

I’d love it if you shared some of the ways this week’s quote has made you feel, and what intentions you’re setting for yourself as we step into September this week!

We each have a unique journey, and I would love to share in yours.

24 August 2020 – Work at Lifelong Relationships

Weekly YES Quote!

“I would rather walk with a friend in the dark than alone in the light.”

Helen Keller

Weekly Reflection

This past week was the first full week I’ve been able to spend in my new spot, and I’ve been loving it!

The quote from two week’s ago in the yes post, Take the Plunge, still stands out in my mind: “Just remember, once you’re over the hill you begin to pick up speed.”

Well… here I am picking up speed!

Although I’m not fully unpacked nor have I finished carting over items I may or may not choose to hold onto, I am making serious progress towards completion: 90% of the items in my new spot have a home, items that are missing (new couch is en route!) have a designated space, and wall decorations are slowly going up!

I highly recommend checking out last week’s post regarding Cleansing Your Space if you haven’t already.

And the best part about it is that I’ve not had to go through this change alone.

My best friend Nick W. not only helped me find the spot, but he’s been monumental in moving assistance and critical purchases (I can’t imagine my life without you).

My amazing friends Ethan and Nick M. spent a full weekend helping me repaint furniture and assist / have been assisting with moving activities (I’m always good for pizza and beer, boys).

My ride or die Nikki has helped to get me out of the apartment so that I can reset my intentions and come back refreshed to conquer more (she might even be moving into the same complex… fingers crossed!).

My loving parents have ensured my mental and financial health are intact (I owe you so much towards my success as a person and professional. Thank you!).

The support system I have is unreal, and I can’t thank these people and others not mentioned above enough.

Which brings us to this week’s yes post: although change may be in your foresight, you never need to go it alone nor should you.

I could’ve put my head down and with a heavy heart decided that I was just going to barrel into this next chapter alone, but what fun would that be?

Instead I reached out to friends, family, and loved ones to assist me with all aspects of this process.

I don’t need to walk through life alone even as I forge my path as an independent person.

And neither should you.

We should always remember and cherish those who have helped us get to where we are.

Weekly Challenge

This weekend I packed a bag and headed to North County San Diego to stay with my old roomy Nick.

We haven’t had much Nick & Aly time since we stopped living together back in early August and that simply wasn’t okay with us.

He assisted me with some more moving activities (he helped me purchase a TV… tip for you readers: I’m not a savvy TV person), and we watched countless episodes of Frasier (so far we’ve crushed FriendsWill & Grace, and Cheers – sitcoms are our jam).

I’m even writing this week’s yes post to you from the island counter in his kitchen!

The point of sharing more information about my weekend with you is this:

I’ve been going it solo for a while now, but I’ve not forgotten who my people are, and more importantly I’ve not forgotten to show them what they mean to me.

Has anyone come to mind for you as you’ve read this post? Someone you may have lost contact with as you and they have grown separate?

We will grow apart if we don’t put in the effort of maintaining the relationship.

Every relationship, no matter how easy the relationship may seem, requires work if you intend on the relationship lasting.

I firmly believe that your friendships, work relationships, family relationships, and maybe most importantly romantic relationships all require work in order to be healthy, happy, and steadfast.

This week I challenge you to reach out to one of your people who you may have lost contact with, drifted apart from, grown separate of… Touch in with them, connect with them, and find out how they’re doing and share with them how you’re doing.

Sometimes it’s okay if relationships fade – for not every relationship is permanent and that’s okay! Some relationships are stepping stones towards our own betterment and weren’t meant to last.

But some relationships, no matter how dormant they may have become, are meant to last, and all it takes is a little work from you to bring that relationship back to the present.

So pick up the phone or send the text, tweet, Facebook message, DM, [insert social media reference for contact here] and contact that person or persons who’ve come to mind this week.

I’m sure they’d love to hear from you as much as you’d love to hear from them.

Just as this week’s quote by Helen Keller says,

“I would rather walk with a friend in the dark than alone in the light.”

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

I’d love it if you shared some of the ways this week’s quote has made you feel, and who you’re looking to connect with or advice on how to connect with people you’ve lost touch with this week!

We each have a unique journey, and I would love to share in yours.

17 August 2020 – Cleanse Your Space

Weekly YES Quote!

“The space in which we live should be for the person we are becoming now, not for the person we were in the past.”

Marie Kondo

(The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing is an affiliate link)

Weekly Reflection

I feel good. I feel really really good.

This weekend I moved the majority of my belongings into my new home. I’d say I’m right around 80/20 where 80% of my possessions are at the new spot while 20% are lingering behind at the old spot.

As I endlessly pack, transfer packages, then unpack (seems like it’ll never end…) I keep looking around thinking, do I need the other 20?

We’re so prone to collecting things… and I can say without a doubt that I’m guilty of such mannerisms.

I’m not saying it’s wrong, wasteful, or irresponsible to collect. I enjoy the memories that I can associate with items I’ve collected from trips around the world, friends, family members, a random garage sale… It’s nice to have things that hold memories.

But it’s also nice to let things go when you move.

It’s cleansing to purge and clear the slate again for the new start you’re beginning.

It’s helpful to the soul to let some things go while you forge your new path.

So while some items (like my ridiculous collection of pint glasses) will make the journey over to my new pad, some items will go to new homes.

I can appreciate the items for the purposes they once served for me, and I can appreciate the new purpose they’ll serve for someone else.

Weekly Challenge

When was the last time you cleared out items from your closet, pantry, car, office, vacation home, or [insert place you frequently seem to store clutter]?

We tend to clutter places we use and visit often, and we rarely take the time to cleanse those spaces to keep them fresh for us.

I need to remind myself of this as I settle into my new home.

I’m going to be here almost every day using this space. I need to consider what possessions I need or have outgrown regularly so that I keep the space fresh.

We owe it to ourselves to have a place that always brings us clarity, peace, and comfort.

And we cannot have that marvelously fulfilling space if we clog it with clutter.

I challenge you to take this week to survey your regular areas and take action to clear out items that are no longer of use to you.

When you look into your closet to get dressed this morning, survey what clothes you haven’t worn in a year or more. Maybe you don’t need those clothes anymore.

When you look into your pantry to prep for your meal, survey what food items you never pick up when you’re inspired to make food or what food items are quickly approaching their expiration date.

When you hop into your car this morning to make your regular commute or to run an errand, survey what out of date papers you have in your glove box or what unnecessary trinkets you have piling up in your center console.

When you sit down at your desk to get cranking away at the office survey what items are strewn about on your desktop or within the drawers.

When you get to your vacation home to have a relaxing, re-centering holiday survey what items you brought from your main home thinking that they would be of use but have instead converted your vacation home into a storage for old stuff.

Think about what you’re not using, won’t use, or have never used when you’re in your regular spaces this week and take action to give them a new life where they might be used.

Clear your space.

We all need a good cleanse from time to time.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

The link to Marie Kondo’s book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing, is an affiliate link. If you purchase the book following my link I will receive a small kickback, and you will receive a wonderful edition to your collection! I love Marie’s approach to cleansing your space so that you can live an awesome life. I’m a huge advocate that her methods work.

I’d love it if you shared some of the ways this week’s quote has made you feel, and what cleansing activities you’re looking to take on this week or have taken on in the past!

We each have a unique journey, and I would love to share in yours.

10 August 2020 – Take the Plunge

Weekly YES Quote!

“Just remember, once you’re over the hill you begin to pick up speed.”

Arthur Schopenhauer, Schopenhauer: The World as Will and Representation: Volume 2 (The Cambridge Edition of the Works of Schopenhauer)

(The World as Will and Representation: Volume 2 is an affiliate link)

Weekly Reflection

In last week’s post I reflected on two weeks of personal hardship (read the post here: 3 August 2020 – Manage the Stress).

And while I did manage the stress this past week, I still feel very emotional towards the changes that I’ve begun to embrace, and well… ultimately the changes are right around the corner whether or not I’m ready or willing to dive headfirst into whatever newness is waiting for me.

The above thought brings me to this week’s yes post: “take the plunge.”

For what else can I do?

I guess I could sit around and mope, feel sorry for myself, and cry until my tear ducts plugged and my eyes run out of fluid.

Or I could jump around jovially, tell myself everything is going to be absolutely spectacular, and do ten burpies in a row because why the heck not!

But truly… knowing me and who I am… I’ll take the plunge into this next chapter using a combination of the two while focusing on creating a balance that satisfies and soothes my soul.

For if I was only depressingly sad or only blissfully happy I wouldn’t truly be taking the plunge I want and need for myself.

We’re each looking for our way in this life.

And if we let these seemingly monumental occurrences blockade our paths and don’t permit ourselves room for growth and change, then we’re doing ourselves a disservice in this life.

How you take the plunge is entirely up to you.

What plunge you take is also entirely up to you.

You are the captain, first mate, and crew on your life journey. You have all the power and resources you need in order to be successful.

But you have to take the plunge no matter how difficult or impossible it may seem.

I’m not ready to live without Nick. I’m simply not. But I won’t let the fact that he’s not in the other room across the hall stop me from living the life I was meant to lead.

My heart is still sad, heavy, but strong.

Weekly Challenge

What’s been nagging at you lately?

We’ve all been faced with the requirement to change our daily lives due to the pandemic we’re all still dealing with and will always continue to deal with.

Maybe that’s your biggest hurtle at the moment.

Or, perhaps, you’ve encountered a new obstacle in your path as I have that’s preventing you from achieving your desired happiness.

I challenge you this week to identify what in your life is making you unhappy.

I challenge you this week to identify what changes have occurred that have otherwise upset your comfortable lifestyle.

I challenge you this week to identify what longtime issues you’ve ignored, backburnered, and otherwise chosen not to face headfirst to eliminate their nuisance.

I challenge you this week to open yourself up to the possibilities you have in front of you because of the unhappiness, discomforts, and nuisances.

Take the plunge! Take on your life!

Take this as an opportunity to grow and get better.

Take this as an opportunity to do more with the talents you possess.

Take this opportunity solely for you.

You are the number one person in your life. You are the center of your universe.

If you’re unhappy, uncomfortable, or holding back… you’re do you a disservice more than anything else.

So take the plunge this week!

I’ll be there taking the plunge with you hand in hand.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

The link to the book containing Arthur Schopenhauer’s philosophies, Schopenhauer: The World as Will and Representation: Volume 2 (The Cambridge Edition of the Works of Schopenhauer, is an affiliate link. If you purchase the book following my link I will receive a small kickback, and you will receive a wonderful edition to your collection! I have not read this book, but today’s quote has me inspired to share with you some of his work.

I’d love it if you shared some of the ways this week’s quote has made you feel, and what plunge you plan to take on this week or have taken on in the past!

We each have a unique journey, and I would love to share in yours.

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