29 March 2021 – Perception is Reality

Weekly Yes Quote

“Accept then act. Whatever the present moment contains accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against… This will miraculously transform your whole life.”

Eckhart Tolle

Weekly Reflection

Perception is a funny thing.

Perception, by Google definition, is the state of being or process of becoming aware of something through the senses.

I’ve been told by many sources conflicting information regarding your perception.

I’ve been told perception is reality – what people see and perceive about you is the reality. I’ve also been told the perception you hold of yourself is higher than how others may perceive you.

So, which is it? Which is true?

To a degree I believe both views are true, but more often than not I believe we need to consider why others may perceive us differently than we perceive ourselves.

We need to not get defensive, hurt, flustered, or combative when others tell us things they perceive about us. We need to step back, breathe, listen, and try to understand why we’re not being perceived as we perceive ourselves.

Recently I’ve had a falling out with a good friend of mine.

Over the course of the last six months or so I’ve reached out to him to no avail.

At first I thought maybe there was a communication error – like, maybe he got a new cell phone number, and he simply forgot to tell me.

Come to find out this was not the case.

Finally he felt comfortable enough to break his silence to tell me how he feels about me as a friend.

While this whole time I thought we had a carefree, fun relationship, I learned that his perception of me had become that of a moocher, taker, and non-contributor.

Wow…

I had to pause when I read the text message – that was definitely not what I was expecting.

At first I wanted to draft up a defensive message stating all of the things I’d done that negate his feelings and perception of me.

Re-read that sentence again… I wanted to negate his feelings and perception of me with information from my own perception of me.

My immediate gut reaction was to fix the problem by telling him he was wrong… think about that for a minute.

I am not him.

I cannot see myself as he can see me.

I am only me.

I can only see me through me.

Rather than jump to the defensive, I took a deep breath and put myself in his shoes. I considered what he’s been through recently and where there may be some validity to his words.

And, truth be told, there was some validity to his words.

We’re not perfect humans – I’ll readily admit this fact any day of the week.

But, while I didn’t feel my actions warranted this labeling, I can see how some of my actions may have been perceived by him to justify the labeling.

I’ve since worked to make amends for how my actions have made him feel and to change the course of his perception of me.

My perception of me is that I am a provider, giver, and contributor.

However, perception can be reality – and in this instance the perception my friend developed of me put a rift in our relationship.

We’re such busy creatures that sometimes we forget to be appreciative of and devote time to those that matter dearly to us.

Life was never meant to be easy – if it were Adam and Eve would still be frolicking naked in the garden (totally joking, but you religious folks know what I’m talking about).

I want you to know that it’s okay if someone doesn’t perceive you in the same light that you perceive yourself.

But I also want you to know that you can modify the way others perceive you if it means enough to you.

No one is perfect.

No one is you.

No one knows how you feel even if you tell them how you feel.

The same is true with those you surround yourself with – you can’t truly feel how they feel even if they tell you how they’re feeling.

Weekly Challenge

How do you think others perceive you?

How do you perceive yourself?

Do you think others think highly of you, or do you think they cringe whenever you walk in the room or invite yourself to events?

Do you think highly of yourself, or do you dislike being in the same room as yourself or have a hard time being you?

If you have any negative thoughts whatsoever of yourself I want you to take a pause. I want you to take a deep breath in, hold it for a couple of seconds, and then let it out – all the way out. Expel all the negative energy you’ve just filled your being with.

Again, we’re not perfect.

I cannot say it enough.

WE – ARE – NOT – PERFECT.

But, we can adapt and become a better version of ourselves.

If you’re not satisfied with how you’re being perceived, then change the perception

You have the power to improve your life for the betterment of yourselves and others.

Challenge yourself this week to look at the way others may perceive you. If you like what you see, then great! Kudos! If you don’t like what you see, then devise a plan to change it.

Reality is constantly changing. Reality is not conrete.

We grow, we adapt, and we maneuver through life.

In this way you can make your perception of yourself a reality to yourself and others around you.

Care enough to take a crack at it?

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you, which will enrich and further your life! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

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I’d love it if you shared some of the ways this week’s quote has made you feel, and how you’re going to reflect inward and make the reality you perceive a reality others perceive!

We each have a unique journey, and I would love to share in yours.

22 March 2021 – Cultural Growth

Weekly Yes Quote

“We have to continue to learn. We have to be open. And we have to be ready to release our knowledge in order to come to a higher understanding of reality.”

Thich Nhat Hanh

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Weekly Reflection

Hello beautiful readers! It’s been too long since my last blog post concerning sharing the love to those who matter to you (8 February 2021 – Share the Love). I didn’t realize how upset I would get while writing that post, and I needed to take a break to breathe and reset my intentions.

Good news: intentions have been set and this lovely Monday morning’s blog post is live and ready for the reading.

I’m switching gears this week to focus on culture, and, more specifically, on cultural growth.

I work in a bilingual setting when I’m away from the blog, and I’m sure many of you have experienced situations where English isn’t the primary language spoken.

Whether that be when you traveled abroad to a foreign country, invited foreigners into your home to stay for holiday, tested the waters by moving to another country, or maybe you’re from another country and have chosen to settle in a place that primarily speaks English.

Whatever the circumstances may be or have been – do you remember how uncomfortable you were being away from your safe place wherein you were just like everyone else (at least the language aspect)?

I have felt extreme discomfort traveling abroad, and though I give a solid effort towards assimilating, I know I stick out like a soar thumb.

My French, German, and Dutch are awful, and any country East of Europe is so foreign to me that I would require a translator or guide to ensure I have a cultural experience wherein I can ensure cultural sensitivity while having a fabulous time.

I took Spanish throughout elementary and high school, and though I am super rusty thanks to a lull while in college and the early years of my professional life, I’ve started to get back on the cultural band wagon to fortify my Spanish language skills.

It’s especially important to me because I live in San Diego, which borders with our Mexican neighbors. Some people at my office, though they speak decent English, speak primarily Spanish.

I want to be able to communicate effectively with everyone in the office, which means my Spanish needs to improve. Also, I love Spain and Mexico, and improving my Spanish fluency will only benefit when I’m able to travel abroad again.

To work on my Spanish language skills I’ve been using Babbel.

And I must say, I enjoy learning with Babbel where I can choose why I want to learn Spanish rather than go through the motions of learning the numbers all over again… which has been the case with Rosetta Stone.

But enough about the Babbel platform, which I recommend you try if you’ve been considering learning a new language or simply need a solid refresher course.

This past week I had a coworker assist me with translating a presentation about 5S from English to Spanish, which will be used as part of our company-wide training program. Then, I recorded both presentations and narrated them separately in English and in Spanish.

Though I’m a go getter and love a good challenge, that does not mean I’m comfortable when I step outside of my cute little box…

If you want to grow you have to step outside of your comfort zone, and if you want to grow culturally you have to be able to get even more uncomfortable.

Weekly Challenge

I’m proud of myself for practicing my Spanish language skills to further my career, myself as a person in this beautifully diverse world, and assisting my coworkers with their journeys towards a more successful and wholesome career.

I’m proud of myself for stepping outside of my happy little space that makes me feel secure to a space that is much less secure and vulnerable.

Cultural growth is so important as we work to bring this world closer together. We need to better our understanding of each other so that we can thrive together.

Each of us serves a unique and important purpose in this world.

We each have something magnificent to contribute that only we can offer.

And the best way to ensure that everyone gets a seat at the table is by ensuring that we grow culturally to further understand each other.

Challenge yourself to step outside of your comfort zone to embrace cultural growth.

Challenge yourself to take action to increase your knowledge and awareness of others in your community and workplace.

Challenge yourself to learn something new about someone who is different from yourself – even if all you do is a quick Google search about a culture you’ve been interested in.

This challenge is simpler than it may seem. I’m not suggesting you sign up with Babbel to learn Japanese today – although if this was the sign you needed I thoroughly support your next steps towards learning Japanese.

Instead, I’m suggesting you be more aware of other cultures around you in your daily life, hop on Google or your favorite search engine and learn more about another country’s customs, call a relative to inquire about your family’s cultural history, check out Pinterest for a foreign food recipe you’ve never made before…

There are many ways to challenge yourself to grow culturally, and I know you’ll seek one or more of them out to further your growth as a person.

Happy learning!

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you, which will enrich and further your life! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

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I’d love it if you shared some of the ways this week’s quote has made you feel, and how you’re going to grow culturally this week and for the many weeks to come!

We each have a unique journey, and I would love to share in yours.

8 February 2021 – Share the Love

Weekly YES Quote!

“Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.”

Mother Teresa of Calcutta

Weekly Reflection

Love is a difficult venture.

Anyone who tells you that love is easy is either full of it (you know exactly what it is), or has had a life “lucky” beyond belief.

I’ve been reflecting these last two weeks on love and what it means to me – two weeks ago I posted about my cousin’s wedding, and how she got married despite the numerous obstacles she faced (25 January 2021 – Never Let Your Determination Waver).

Love is never simple.

Love is complicated and intricate. It’s one of the most beautiful, innate feelings.

And when you least expect it the most, love could consume you or leave you.

My dad’s sister, my closest Aunt, is dying of cancer. By the way, “FU CANCER!”

“Fortunately” – I can’t even believe I’m typing that word… – it’s not a surprise.

She’s been trying to send the cancer into the netherworld for about two years now, but doctors don’t believe it’s possible.

I have a lot of anger.

I have a lot of emotion.

I have a lot of sorrow.

To be as blunt as possible… THIS SUCKS!!!

If you’ve been in my shoes or in deeper shoes than I – you get it. I have the biggest virtual hug for you.

I love her – she’s fun, charismatic, smart, lovely… quite frankly she’s one of the most amazing women that I know.

And, beyond belief, at 60, the world isn’t yet ready for her departure – yet here we are, and I’m at a loss.

Last weekend we spent memorable time together.

We laughed, told stories, showcased photos/videos… maybe more than she wanted or would’ve ever wanted to see (I have a promising chat thread dedicated to sending her images and videos of me… I think she’s welcome).

I was trying to find a skinny dipping video of my best friend and I invading Ice Lakes (+12K’ elevation), but fortunately for her health I wasn’t able to.

Regardless, love was in the air this past weekend, and I wouldn’t have missed spending this time with her for the world.

Weekly Challenge

Times are beyond hard right now.

I’m with you.

If you’ve lost someone close to you or are knowingly about to lose someone close to you, know that I’m here for you.

It’s not easy to lose someone you love.

Maybe you haven’t spoken with that friend, family member, romantic partner, coworker, neighbor… and take it from me: don’t wait.

Tomorrow everything could change.

Don’t let tomorrow sneak up on you.

The weekend is over and all I want is more time with my Aunt. Unfortunately for all involved time is the one thing we’re not forecasted to have.

Challenge yourself this week to reach out to those most dear to your heart.

Pick up the phone.

Shoot over a text.

Write a letter or email.

Whatever your preferred form of communication, please exercise it to tell those around you who you love that you love them. Let them know you love them.

You’ll be forever grateful, and your loved one will be as well.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

I’d love it if you shared some of the ways this week’s quote has made you feel, and how you’re going to challenge yourself to reach out to those you love!

We each have a unique journey, and I would love to share in yours.

25 January 2021 – Never Let Your Determination Waver

Weekly YES Quote!

“I decided long ago never to walk in anyone’s shadow; if I fail, or if I succeed, at least I did as I believe.”

Whitney Houston

Weekly Reflection

A few months ago I was fortunate enough to visit my family up in Humboldt County, California.

Usually, during a regular calendar year pre-COVID, I only make it home for Christmas because it’s such a trek to get up to that area in Northern California.

I added this venture home for the year because my beautiful cousin was getting married.

I not proudly admit that I word vomited plenty of negative comments prior to my arrival back home…

Getting married during COVID… is she crazy?! Are we wearing masks? Are we hugging? Are we going to be able to genuinely enjoy each other’s company and celebrate, or are we going to sit around social distancing while being exceptionally celebration-awkward? She doesn’t have a bridal party… only her Maid of Honor?! But she already picked out the bridesmaid dresses and and and…

These and other thoughts circled through my mind.

And to top it off California… yes, the entire State of California… was on fire (again).

Like come on!

When I landed in San Francisco on my stopover to the Eureka/Arcata airport it looked like I was in the middle of an apocalypse…

Prior to taking off from San Francisco our pilot even cracked a joke about how we’d shortly be departing Middle Earth once some paperwork and routine checks were completed.

As if my mind wasn’t already hating on the COVID struggles the wedding would face now we have to deal with fire on top of it.

Can you imagine?

As if you aren’t already upset enough that the headcount for your wedding has greatly diminished due to the pandemic, but now your gorgeous wedding dress is going to glow orange because of the fires in the area – sad headcount and orange photos… great.

Through all this my cousin’s attitude never wavered.

The pandemic reared its ugly face, and she refused to move her wedding date.

The fire came fiercely ripping through the State, and she again refused to move her wedding date.

I thought she was stubborn and being a bit ridiculous… I truly did. Until the day of the wedding.

Marrying your best friend isn’t about having the perfect attendance, date, weather…

Marrying your best friend is about making a commitment to the person you cherish the most and want to be with forever.

Those who want to be there for you to celebrate with you will be there, and it’ll be the best party ever in celebration of your union because everyone who is there wants to be together.

I learned that lesson that day.

I felt so foolish for all my negative, snarky comments… it wasn’t my wedding to judge or be judgmental over. I should’ve been feeling happy and ecstatic that I was even invited to her wedding… grateful even that she would want me there to share her special day with her.

Yet there I was being superficial about how she was deviating from social norms when they don’t even matter!

Weekly Challenge

We should never lose sight of what’s most important to us especially when faced with obstacles no matter how impossible they may seem.

When you want something bad enough, when you believe in something strongly enough, when you know deep down in your heart that something needs to change… you should never let your determination waver.

My cousin did just that: she wanted to marry the love of her life and nothing was going to prevent that from happening.

She was brave, strong, and resolute.

It didn’t matter that some people couldn’t attend the wedding due to the pandemic – she had her immediate family, her partner’s immediate family, her maid of honor, the best man, and my immediate family present. Everyone who was present was truly present in the moment and happily there to celebrate with the wed couple to be.

It didn’t matter that the sky had a tinge of orange due to the fires throughout the State. So what if her dress would appear more orange than white… she would still look lovely nonetheless. If anything she will be able to tell her children that you never falter when something is important to you, and she can use her wedding photos as the perfect example.

We each have things in our lives that are of the upmost importance to us, and we’d be doing a disservice to ourselves and the world if we didn’t strive for them because of a social norm or other unimportant happening.

Commit to what matters most to you!

Don’t hesitate to reach, scramble, scratch, claw, or get your hands dirty.

Challenge yourself this week to make strides in your life towards the things that matter most to you, and don’t let any seemingly impossible obstacle(s) get in your way of your path to success.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

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I’d love it if you shared some of the ways this week’s quote has made you feel, and obstacles you’ve come across that are hindering your path towards success or obstacles you’ve overcome recently to continue on your path to success!

We each have a unique journey, and I would love to share in yours.

18 January 2021 – Stick to Your Intentions

“I don’t promise you it will be easy. I do promise you it will be worthwhile.”

Art Williams

Weekly Reflection

Second week down with two weeks to go before January concludes! I’ll be saluting the conclusion of my sobriety with a beer or glass or wine – of this you can be certain.

It feels good to set a goal and stick to it!

I’ve had plenty of temptations and cravings that have reared their ugly heads to try and steer me off my course, but I have not given into either of them.

Now I get it – it’s just alcohol, it’s only been 17 days, and I’m not looking to quit forever, but…

Just because something is brief doesn’t mean it’s less important.

If something, no matter the size or volume of effect it’ll have on your life, sparks joy for you – then commit to doing it!

Weekly Challenge

What intentions have you made for yourself this year? Have you stuck to any one of them? Have you stuck to all of them? Have you discarded your original list and made a new one?

It’s okay if you’re still on the meh, not for me path.

Notice that I’ve chosen to write “intentions” instead of “resolutions.”

The word “intention” is defined as an aim or a plan whereas a “resolution” is defined as a firm decision to do or not do something by Google dictionary.

Resolutions for the new year fail time and time again – why might that be?

I feel it’s because we apply too much pressure on ourselves to do or not do something.

The term resolute doesn’t imply an aim for why we’re bettering ourselves or a plan by which we’re going to succeed in accomplishing the discontinuation or continuation of this firm decision we’ve made…

Setting an intention does.

I cannot begin to tell you how fulfilling and freeing it feels to have set my mind to something and to have followed it through – something that has become difficult for me since turning 21 years of age.

It’s so easy, readily available, and ya know what – after a long day at work it’s comforting to sit down and crack a cold one while turning on some mindless TV.

Challenge yourself to stick to your intentions you make for yourself and assist others on their journeys as well.

Challenge yourself to set intentions throughout your life and don’t bottleneck yourself to the beginning of each new year to start change or forward progression in your life.

Your life is valued! You are special and uniquely you! You have so much to offer the world!

So make your life happen for you!

We all benefit when we’re stronger as a whole.

Reminder to Just Say Yes!

As always, say yes to experiences that present themselves to you! Life is full of fun and wonder – don’t be stuck at home wondering what life could be like, should be like, would be like… drop that nonsense! Get out there, say yes, and never look back!

Click on the links below to follow me on my social media accounts, and definitely subscribe to the blog for more Weekly Yes Quotes to help set your intention to kick start your week.

I’d love it if you shared some of the ways this week’s quote has made you feel, and how you’re going to ensure you set and remain faithful to your intentions!

We each have a unique journey, and I would love to share in yours.

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